Anyone else struggle with anxiety in a healthy new relationship?

[Anxiouschanging]

Can anyone relate / talk some sense in to me?

I'm in a new relationship for the first time since exh upped and left almost 3 years ago.

Very nice guy who has given me no reason to doubt him and knows what's happened to me in the past.

I'm literally driving myself mental with my own brain. He's not a constantly on his phone person but we speak on and off throughout the day, and I find myself constantly checking my phone to see if he's messaged and spiralling if he hasn't.

He's got a large group of friends and an active social life (so have I) and my brain goes again if he's out with his friends instead of me.

I absolutely know I'm being unreasonable and I probably need to have a conversation with him, but I'm an awkward bastard with things like that.

Anyone managed to heal an anxious brain?

(I've done a shit ton of therapy so know what my issues are!)

DO NOT have a conversation with him about it - unless you want to have him running for the hills.

it’s easy for me to say but honestly, smothering someone in this way is never a good thing. Try and focus less on this bloke and more on your existing life and let things unfold as they will

I’m like this and my relationship has just imploded, because of many other reasons but my anxiety has ruined many relationships. Don’t talk to him about it you’ve got to work this one out unfortunately!

Thanks both, I'll work this one out myself then.

I was never like this until exh. Make some wonder if maybe I'm just not ready... But such a shame because new guy is just great.