Uses me for aex

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Im so upset with myself for letting this guy use me over and over for just sex nevet cating what so ever about me He does not kiss me show me any affection. Has sex and leaves. He ignores my upset text then will message a week later are you home want me to come over. And again I respond. Then he blames me says I send him passive aggressive messages so he doesn't answer oh and that just pushes him away But me talking to him tonight crying telling him how hurt I am he said that's better . Then he still left and haven't heard from him. Please help

Block his number/social media.... whatever you get in touch with.

Just dump his sorry ass!He doesnt care for you and is just using you .You cab do way better ,as PP above says just block his number

Why wouldn't he when you let him?

Take some responsibility.

Some people are givers and some are takers. He falls into the latter category. And he will continue to take for as long as you allow it. So what if he wants to come over? You're not obliged to say yes and you're not obliged to have sex with him. Ask yourself why you continue to allow yourself to be used by him. Work on your self esteem. The best thing you can do is block this guy and forget about him. He's not going to change.

You're doing this to yourself.

I have to agree with this it takes 2.

Learn how to say no.

Stop letting him! Hope you're using protection/decent contraception

Have some self respect and block him

Yes, these are your poor choices, OP. No one has you at gunpoint. Just end things and block him.

He’s using you like he would you a sex-worker except he’s not leaving the money on the dresser.

Stop being that person. Come on woman, wake up and smell the coffee. DUMP him, he’s a user of the very worst kind. Get yourself an STI test too. You might not be his only one.

This is not suiting u. You deserve better. Cease all contact.

Block his number. Talk to someone you trust. Do you have friends/family? You're in a cycle driven by low self esteem. He comes over, this makes you feel wanted/needed for a while, he goes, you're upset, then you're waiting for his next message, it arrives/you respond, and the whole thing starts again. You can stop the cycle, but you will also need to work on your self esteem, there are lots of resources out there to help. Talking therapy can be a good place to start. I agree with a previous poster about the STI check, too. Keep in touch on here as I am sure there will be some supportive/useful posts. X

It’s sad that you’re talking as if you have no agency. Just block his number, you’re allowing him to do this to you every time.

Take accountability.

Stop having sex with him then?

Another one who agrees that you’re making poor life choices. You’re upset with yourself so you know what you have to do.

Stop letting him do it then. This is on you!

It’s very simple. Grab your self respect with both hands, block him, don’t let him in your house and … don’t let him use you for sex.
If he can, he will. Works brilliantly for him.

Why do you let him? Have some backbone. And self-respect.

sorry op but you need to hear this:

1. he's not that into you
2. he won’t change no matter how much you want him too.
3. he doesn’t want you. he will never want you.
4. each time he shags you hes thinking of some other woman. not you.
5. each time YOU allow him into your life he breaks your heart because YOU let him.
6. Stop letting him in. Block. Not chat. No explanation. He will be expecting to be blocked as hes a chancer. You will want to semd him a heartfelt message or emotionally manipulate him. You will waste your time. He doesn’t care. Hes not interested in you. Just a free shag.

Block and walk. The longer you spend dreaming about the impossible, the longer you will be unavailable to allow anyone else nice into your life.

I don’t understand why you still let him if you don’t want this? Block him and find someone else. No one is forcing you to stay in any situations you don’t like.

I am very puzzled as to why this person is in your life.
He doesn't have to be .... the choice is yours.