Disappointed with friend, would this annoy you?

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I have a best friend of over 20 years and she frequently asks me to help her out with things like dumping stuff up the tip, picking up furniture etc. Probably because I have a small van. These excursions usually take up most of my day.
I have been happy to do this for petrol money and a nominal sum. I have also run her around when she had no transport and lent her money. She has helped me out once when I was incapacitated.
A few months ago, she asked me again to borrow my van but I had to refuse because I was too busy.
Unfortunately, my DP was recently seriously ill in hospital leaving me stressed out and running our business alone. She has now asked again if I am free to do some errands for her and I have refused. I explained that I have been through a difficult time and am genuinely knackered and short of time: I am getting ready for a trade show.
AIBU to expect a reply to my text? She has neither texted or phoned to ask how I am or what has happened to DP. I am disappointed because I thought she would at least show some concern but now I'm wondering if she's sulking because I don't want to help her again.

It sounds like a very one sided friendship OP.

If she was a true friend she would be showing concern for you and for your DP's health. It sounds as though she is only interested in how you can be of use to her

She's not your friend. She's a user. You're only useful to her when she needs something.

Sod her, move on and find better friends.

Sorry.

She's just been using you. She has no interest in you or your husband. You've seen her true colours, don't do anything for her again. Sorry you've found out the hard way, you sound like a lovely, generous person. You deserve better friends who will appreciate you and support you.

If she can’t even pick up the phone to check in with you, then she’s no friend and will be no loss.

That is really not ok. She is a very bad friend.

Don't give her any more lifts. She is a CF.

A good deed never goes unpunished.
I had similar with a friend who had a chronic illness. Throughout which I looked after her dog.
Now she’s better I get last minute requests to mind the dog while she goes off on holiday or decides to stay over at her partners. I really can’t as I am crazy busy with work and a renovation and the dog is a clingy pain.
She then says things like ‘oh no if you can’t have him then I’m just not going to be able to go’. Apparently none of her other friends are able to either…I’m the mug.
Even though I’ve asked she never been able to look after my dog.
She hasn’t spoken to me since.
I find that a lot of these friends are there simply because you’re helpful to them and in reality you get nothing back. I’m actually relieved she’s walked away Sounds as if you might be too.