Low libido and wanting advice on feeling more feminine and open

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Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a stressful job. As long as I can remember, I've never had a high libido. It always felt shameful or sinful to me. Right now, I have no desire at all. I can't find a boyfriend, and I want to get married and become a mother, but something is holding me back. What do you think I can do to feel more feminine, sexy, compassionate, and gentle?

Therapy? Did you have an oppressive religious upbringing?

no,noo On the contrary, I grew up extremely free. But I don't even consider myself worthy of sexuality, and I don't know why. Not even holding a man's hand, for example. As for marriage, I especially don't consider myself worthy of it.

Some of the trashiest pieces of shit have kids. You are more than worthy.

Get some therapy and find out what your particular issue is, but as a woman you will definitely find a man, the challenge is filtering out the arseholes. You got this.

Are you physically healthy. Don't have a hormone imbalance? Do you really believe it's psychological? It might be that you need to have blood tests and if they are okay some therapy. IME girls are usually curious from 18 - 25

I was going to ask if you were asexual but not feeling worthy to hold a man's hand?

Have you seen men lately? 😂

You're only 26. You have lots of time to get into a relationship and have children.

First! Get yourself to therapy and work out where this self-loathing(?) / feeling of unworthiness is coming from. Dating feeling like this is only likely to lead you into terrible relationships.

But I don't even consider myself worthy of sexuality, and I don't know why. Not even holding a man's hand, for example. As for marriage, I especially don't consider myself worthy of it

Wow. You need a good, wise friend or therapy because you seem to have very low self-esteem.

I grew up extremely free

What does that mean, exactly?

People are understandably questioning your religious background or culture. You talk like you're from a culture where women are expected to be submissive or 'gentle', as you say. Almost no-one who is an atheist or agnostic who's been raised in that environment would use the word 'sinful' to refer to sex or libido, unless it's in a humorous way.

Explore and find yourself. Keep asking people out until it feels okay and if they say yes, then learn to enjoy going out. Sitting at home alone does not help.