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Need advice-I’m uncertain and need some answers

6 replies

Anonmaly · 16/08/2026 16:42

I’m currently talking to a woman who says:

1.) she jots down notes every time we have a phone call. She also asks very formatted questions, as if I’m in an interview.

2.) Sometimes, she claims she wants something genuine, but there are times when I catch her inconsistencies. For example, she randomly said she sometimes feels like she’s pleasing people. But today she lied and said she doesn’t do it and that she says she likes authenticity… but only because I answered that’s what I like. And she often asks the questions first so she can go “I like that too!” And doesn’t come clean unless she feels safe about something.

3.) She said she only ran into toxic relationships and talked badly about all her exes. But she still meets up with one for some reason.

Are these normal traits in a person? Never met a person this controlled so I need some help. Personally I feel very creeped out and I feel like they’re trying too hard to be loved. What do you think?

OP posts:
Herenowatbroad · 16/08/2026 16:44

You have never met her
and already having reservations and starting a Mumsnet thread to discuss

wrap up the incessant online messaging and start afresh with someone else and meet them early on

FeliciaFancybottom · 16/08/2026 16:44

If you're constantly trying to catch her out and you're only at the talking stage, let it be.
She isn't for you.

oldmanandtheangel · 16/08/2026 16:44

WAYYYY too try hard and controlling. Don't meet up ! Run for the hills.

TFImBackIn · 16/08/2026 16:45

I wouldn't be interested in talking to someone like that. What keeps you going back?

IdaGlossop · 16/08/2026 16:45

What a puzzling post. On what basis are you talking to this woman?

Herenowatbroad · 16/08/2026 20:33

She sounds very peculiar

A match made in heaven.

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