I’m struggling to let go of the idea that my now ex partner had spyware on my phone for almost 8 years. There is way too many coincidences and his behaviour when I reset my phone and when I bought up the subject of spyware on my phone was way too suspicious. We separated about 9 months ago now, and I just find myself replaying moments where things just make sense why he behaved a certain way, if he was spying on my phone and seeing particular messages etc. and I find myself asking, just why, why would anyone do that. And then use what they have seen to be manipulative. For example, when I was pregnant with my second child, I was feeling down, and mentioned to my sister I wonder if things would have been different with my previous partner (a guy called lewis). Within a few days my current partner at the time suggested, the name lewis, as a baby name for our child that I was pregnant with. Which was random and unusual as he was always suggesting Italian names (he is Italian). Other examples, (I used to watch porn, don’t judge) but behaving in the same way as the men behaved in the videos I watched. But when I would ask to try new things and what was his suggestion, he could never think of anything. But yet near to the time of me watching some videos randomly he would then do different things in the bedroom. The list goes on but I’m just unsure of how to move forward and let this go. Any help? Sorry for the long messag