Im 47F, hes 46M. We have been on and off for 18 months. He went through a nasty divorce after she cheated, then moved the guy in. Hes had some mental health stuff since and been hot and cold as a result.
We booked a Barcelona trip, he had a wobble so I had to draft a friend in to go instead and pay a name transfer fee. It was the same amount he had already paid for the trip. He wanted his money back.
We then booked 2 april gig tickets, which I paid for. He bought us 2 august gig tickets of the same value.
We went for our anniversary trip, he had another wobble and we split. I had to draft a friend on for the april gig. The friend didnt like the band so I just gave him the ticket so I didn't have to go alone.
Now the august gig is coming up he told me he still has a spare for it. His friends are already going to that gig, so he wont be alone.
I said how much. He said £60. I said I cant afford that. He said ok I will sell it. He said you should have gone to the other gig alone and sold my ticket. I said it wouldnt have been safe walking through those streets alone. He said I would have. He also said months ago he went to a u2 gig alone and felt sad. But doesn't seem to get.
I just treated him to a birthday meal, drove him to a gig so he could drink and bought him a ukelele. We went to the beach on his birthday. For my birthday in may we were split, so I went to the beach alone. Feels like I lose out every time.
Do i raise it with him? Do i pay for the ticket. It feels like Im being a doormat doing so