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Friend one

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CakeForThought · 27/07/2026 17:24

I had a best friend, our kids were the same age and we got along great for a while. She was one of the school mums and we clicked.
I would have her round for dinners, bbqs, drinks, did parties for our kids in lockdown, gave her lifts and money when she was skint.

It went werid when another good friend of mine & husband were attacked, I had my best friends friend message me with abuse and I messaged my best friend for support but she backed this other girl (was screen shooting our conversation to her) it also came out she was friends with the people who attacked my husband & other friend.

I managed to forgive her eventually but kept my distance after that. I thought a best friend would have my back - clearly not.

I was always there for her through many break ups, bad times, offering support etc and we would talk but in person she’d completely blank me it was weird and actually started to effect my mental health as I kept thinking there was something wrong with me she’d happily talk if she was down or had nobody else and then act like I didn’t exist when she was happy or had someone else.

She also has a habit of slagging friends off behind their backs which got my back up and in the space of us being friends which is only six years has had five different best friends….

Todays my birthday and after making a fuss of her birthday eariler this year she’s not said a word so I’ve deleted her off everything and her number. I don’t feel sad, i feel like a breath of fresh air after being used.. but was it the right thing to do?

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UpDownAllAround1 · 27/07/2026 17:29

Yes and also block her

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 27/07/2026 17:32

-went werid when another good friend of mine & husband were attacked, I had my best friends friend message me with abuse and I messaged my best friend for support but she backed this other girl (was screen shooting our conversation to her) it also came out she was friends with the people who attacked my husband & other friend.
like physically attacked? Did you contact police?

CakeForThought · 27/07/2026 17:35

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 27/07/2026 17:32

-went werid when another good friend of mine & husband were attacked, I had my best friends friend message me with abuse and I messaged my best friend for support but she backed this other girl (was screen shooting our conversation to her) it also came out she was friends with the people who attacked my husband & other friend.
like physically attacked? Did you contact police?

Yes actually attacked, Police were called but they couldn’t collect enough evidence so they couldn’t press charges.

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CakeForThought · 27/07/2026 17:36

UpDownAllAround1 · 27/07/2026 17:29

Yes and also block her

Tempted to block too, my MH has been in tatters with this for a good while. Just awkward if I see them at the school.

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