Husband on escort sites

[suzycy34]

So seen phone history, husband has been looking at photos of women on escort sites and pleasuring himself to it, been happening on and off for years. I forgive then its ok for a while then hes back to hia old habits.

I am finding it hard to forgive this time to many broken promises, just frel tired and broken , and its not like he needs to look that up anyway .

Sorry to hear. I’m not sure anyone can help much other than to say if you can’t forgive him (you shouldn’t have to) and if you aren’t happy then you need to look at leaving if that’s doable for you.

Only you know how you feel about this OP. For me it would be a deal-breaker, the relationship would be over. How long have you been married? Do you have children?

Will be married 14 years next week , and 3 kids ages between 7 to 13 . Just feel like I would be setting myself up for another disappoitment if I forgive again, would be ok for a while then he would do it again, and he justs wants to act normal like its no big deal says all men do that

I mean…he’s not contacting them or anything right?

I dunno…I mean it’s grim but to me it’s no different from jerking off to a dirty magazine is it?

That being said, you’ve told him it hurts you and he’s what? Agreed not to do it anymore…and yet, keeps doing it? That is potentially a marriage breaker. Because he isn’t keeping his word and he’s doing something hurtful to you.

I completely agree he doesn’t need to be searching that stuff up. Everyone has an imagination after all.

For me I’m inclined to say everyone has the right to a bit of privacy too. But if he’s promising not to do it and then doing it and being stupid enough to get caught then… I mean you have every right to call it a day at this point if you want, I suppose.

You need to divorce him. Can't imagine why you forgave him before.

What makes you think that he's just wanking over the photos and not booking them OP?

The internet is full of free porn so I don't understand why he's on escort sites if he's not booking them.
Are your finances combined? Can you see if he's paid that way?

This.

I agree, I doubt he’s just looking. That’s not where most men go for wank material.

You can separate for any reason you want. You aren’t happy. That is sufficient. 💐