Do I assume he only wanted sex after becoming less communicative?

[Heartfelt101]

So I’ve been speaking to this guy, not even for long now but we’d speak everyday constantly about everything and anything and then we had sex, the following day and the days that have followed he doesn’t speak to me much anymore atall, maybe like 4 messages a day now. What confuses me is when we’re together in person he cuddles me, always pulls me closer to him, so affectionate, tries to hold my hand, we fall asleep together.

from a males perspective, do I just assume he’s in it for the sex or not?

It sounds like he might have found sex embarrassing, so he's scared and pulling back a bit.

You're probably not going to get through this without having an adult conversation.

Does he make you cum before or after the 20 seconds?!

Or not at all?
If he doesn't even bother to make sure you are satisfied, or doesn't know how, and doesn't even realise that is important, then bin him.

I think we've established these are a couple of mid 20's people and that the guy has been talking a good fuck but couldn't deliver. Probably inexperienced in the female form and shot his load as soon as she got naked. Perhaps someone a little more experienced OP?

Nothing atall lol

I guess I gota bin him

Threads like this make me realise I'd be terrible at dating/being single now because I definitely couldn't cope with the hassle of 4 messages a day from a potential BF 😂

Absolutely bin him off! He doesn’t know what sex is for.

😭

I willll

At your age OP it's about both. The laughs and the mind blowing sex. You should be able to look back on the summer of 26 with fond memories.
Most of us have fond memories of summers where we had fun IFYSWIM

Yes, your assumption is correct.

A man is at his most charming when he wants to get you into bed.

20 seconds?! Not minutes?! And he doesn't make sure you've cum first?!

Christ, if you were after a friends with benefits partner...well, I'd throw this one back and keep looking...

You have 20 seconds of sex AND he doesn't ensure you orgasm by any other means and you worry about the texting??

Jesus OP, where did you put your self worth?

Didn’t know my self worth was down to me having an orgasm?

@Heartfelt101,

‘Didn’t know my self worth was down to me having an orgasm?’

So true! These threads do become very obsessed with sex.

Good sex is (relatively) easy to work on. Enjoying someone’s company outside the bedroom is far harder.

Which is why I suggested you talk to him and see if you are actually both compatible in your aims for the relationship.

No I definitely will talk to him, thankyou for ur advice, much appreciated

Please tell him about the shit sex tho, otherwise he'll think he's an awesome shag, vs the reality!