Support options during divorce on a spouse visa with a toddler

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Hi

My husband and I going through divorce and I don't feel safe to stay with him until the separation process finished. I also have a 3 years old who require lots of attention and care. But the problem is that I am on spouse visa and not eligible for any support or benefits. I'm constantly applying for job and I'm sure that I'm going to find a job within 6 months but I don't know how to manage my life in this 6 months. I also want to apply for full custody, so I need to make sure that this separation doesn't effect my son. I already spoke to outreach team and they trying to find a solution for me . There's a lot to take specially when I have no friends and family near me to help... I'm all alone. Any suggestions to get help ? Is there any charity that could help families to stay on their feet and provide childcare and accomodations for a few months? Thank you

Where in the country are you roughly? I assume you will need new sponsorship?

Hi,

I'm in UK. I will start working in September for agency, so I can sponsor myself.

You can try contacting Refuge. They offer emergency accommodation and advice for women and children escaping unsafe situations. They can help even if your visa restricts access to public funds.

Alternatively if you’re fleeing abuse, Women’s Aid may help.

If you are a minority southallblacksisters.org.uk may have some funds or advice to offer.

For childcare try: Home Start UK or Family Action.

For advice on your rights: Migrant Help or Rights of Women.

You would usually need a skilled worker visa, if no longer on the spouse visa.
Sometimes you can ask for access to public funds, depending on circumstances.

You really need to speak to a specialist immigration lawyer.

Thank you, it was really helpful. Does getting a lower cost ? Can I seek advice for free ?

I'm going to get in touch with them. Thank you

If you’re here on a spouse visa without IDL you may have to leave if you get divorced. You need to see an immigration lawyer. Working for an agency doesn’t mean much - there are very strict rules on worker visas.

How many years have you been here for? Do you have IDL?

I think this is going to be tough. My dh is here on a spouse visa so I’m absolutely not against immigration but not having any support is going to be difficult. I would strongly consider going home if you can.

Before we lived here we lived in my dh’s country, our children were infants, and I had to build a support network because not having anyone at all makes things so difficult. I did this when my oldest started school.

Do you have any relationship with any of your ex’s family?

Agency work isn’t counted in visa applications as far as I know, it certainly wasn’t when we were doing ours.

Would your ex be willing to pay for full time nursery immediately? He might think it’s a good idea for you to get a job as soon as possible.

https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2025/09/how-to-apply-for-30-hours-free-childcare-and-find-out-if-youre-eligible/

You need to seek immigration advice because he can inform the Home Office you have separated and your spouse visa will be curtailed. Is your child a British Citizen?Citizens advice may be able to help you, or signpost you for advice.

It’s difficult to find good advice for free, but not impossible. You’ll need to contact eg local law centres or citizens advice has specialist advisors depending on location/ can often refer to an organisation that might help. If there has been abuse then women’s charities can sometimes help/ refer.

How long have you and the child been in the uk? Was your child born here?

Can you return to your home country ?

Not with her child if the husband doesn’t allow it. That would be kidnapping under The Hague convention

Please get advice from a competent immigration lawyer.

If your husband is British, if there is domestic abuse involved you may qualify for Indefinite Leave To Remain.

If your child is British you also have an option of the Rights of Access to a child visa.

Your “self sponsorship” plan will almost certainly not work, but get some legal advice.