Sorry this is a bit personal but I can't speak about in IRL.
I had a high sex drive when I was younger - up until I had cancer in my 40s and gruelling treatment out me into menopause. Sex was very painful then it wasn't but it also wasn't very appealing. I'd quite enjoy the intimacy aspect but really would not care if we never bothered again.
Fast forward to the last couple of weeks and out of nowhere BAM it's back. I cannot explain it. I am sex obsessed. It's not good. I have just forgotten an important commitment because I went to masturbate in the middle of the afternoon. Last night I wanted DH to go to sleep so I could get my toy out. I was feeling really resentful because he wouldn't drop off.
And here's the worst part. I don't want him. I spend all my time fantasising about him going to work overseas and me getting an arrangement with two men who have sexless marriages. Purely a fantasy before anyone comes for me!
Myself and DH were never truly aligned sexually. I really tried hard for the years before DC came to improve our sex life and felt frustrated and angry about it. It was boring and unsatisfying. Then i was sick and then I didn't really care. The rest of our relationship is great. I don't want to have to leave him.
Now I feel like oh no this is awful. I can't stay with him anymore and feel like this.