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Driving me mad

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Pinkelephant2025 · 19/07/2026 11:37

My partner came over and put our 2 year old to bed the other evening, I had previously said to him I can do it cos I could see he was tired but he still insisted he do it, she was messing around and didn’t want to go to sleep and I overheard him saying ‘I don’t care’ to her when she was crying. Then he said bye to her and stormed out and told me he can’t do it she’s up too late (it was 8.30) he said she should be asleep by 7 and if I want her up that late then that’s my choice. I didn’t want her up that late she has days where she plays up is this not normal?! He said she is too needy. So he left and then the next day I heard nothing from him and today he would usually spend the day with us or take her out by himself by now but I’ve still heard nothing so I text him and said I don’t understand what is going on is he coming to see our daughter today… and I’ve still not had a reply. This is the second time now I’ve been given the silent treatment and I feel like I’m done, every single time we argue we just go back to being normal without talking about what happened and resolving it and it’s getting on my nerves that I know I can’t talk to him about how I feel.

sorry for the rant, if this was anyone else’s partner what would you do because this isn’t normal for him to not reply and I’ve had enough.

OP posts:
LocoLatino · 19/07/2026 13:08

Pinkelephant2025 · 19/07/2026 11:37

My partner came over and put our 2 year old to bed the other evening, I had previously said to him I can do it cos I could see he was tired but he still insisted he do it, she was messing around and didn’t want to go to sleep and I overheard him saying ‘I don’t care’ to her when she was crying. Then he said bye to her and stormed out and told me he can’t do it she’s up too late (it was 8.30) he said she should be asleep by 7 and if I want her up that late then that’s my choice. I didn’t want her up that late she has days where she plays up is this not normal?! He said she is too needy. So he left and then the next day I heard nothing from him and today he would usually spend the day with us or take her out by himself by now but I’ve still heard nothing so I text him and said I don’t understand what is going on is he coming to see our daughter today… and I’ve still not had a reply. This is the second time now I’ve been given the silent treatment and I feel like I’m done, every single time we argue we just go back to being normal without talking about what happened and resolving it and it’s getting on my nerves that I know I can’t talk to him about how I feel.

sorry for the rant, if this was anyone else’s partner what would you do because this isn’t normal for him to not reply and I’ve had enough.

Hola señorita, this is not correct on so many levels. That man is not acting like a husband or a father.

I understand being a parent for the first time is very hard and probably harder with people who have short temper and no patience. However that doesn’t exclude how they should act.

If he doesn’t say sorry then he’s not the one. He should pull his pants up and start acting like a family man.You can do better

ScorpionLioness79 · 19/07/2026 13:45

Since you share a child, I'd at least try couples counseling, reading a book together on couples communication, and look to see if there are any parenting classes available in the area.

Frame it as a "we" problem so he's more amenable to participate. He might listen to a professional and improve.

If none of that works, at least you know you pulled out all the stops before calling it quits.

UpDownAllAround1 · 19/07/2026 14:47

you have posted a thread about DV with this man. This will not improve I am afraid

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