Should I be worried?

[Lapart318]

Hi.

Me(Female) and my Partner(Male) of nearly a decade regularly exchange explicit photos and videos when we are apart- to keep things exciting.

Today, things were getting quite heated over text, so I asked him to send something to me, and I would do vice versa. He said he wasn't really in the mood(Huh?) and said I already have plenty.

I quickly forgot all about it and we started to talk about other things. A few hours later he sent me something which was unexpected, but nonetheless exciting for me.

He then says that he took that video a few days ago(Just after I last visited him), and he did not send it before, because he "wasn't sure if I would like it" That made me extremely suspicious because we regularly send stuff, so he knows I like it! Why did he not send it earlier if he had the video all along?

All he would have had to do is press send.

Maybe I am just overthinking things, but it sounds like he could have done that video today to send to somebody else, and then sent it to me as cover.

What do you think?

If sending explicit material is his thing then I'm afraid OP it 's more than likely you aren't the only recipient.

We both enjoy sending stuff. It keeps things spicy and exciting.

I only send it to him though of course.

Just thought that was normal, especially in long- term relationships.

How very unlike the home life of our dear King.

I mean if you get the instinct that he could be the sort of person to be sharing these things with other people then it probably comes from somewhere. And after ten years together you think he could be that sort of person…he’s probably not someone you should share images with. For all you know he could be sharing yours too.

What sort of spicy things were you sending? Recipes for a curry?

If this is a true story , please get your relationship in the real world and stop obsessing over texts and who sent what to who.

I don’t get why you’re suspicious that he took it today and sent it to someone else? There’s no grounds for that in what you’ve posted…

Sounds like he wasn’t in the mood to exchange pornographic videos with you before but then sent you one later on - why has that made you think he sent the videos to someone else or that they were taken today?

No I get you. Its because he took the video the other day, but didn't send it. So your brain goes to ‘why take it/keep it then? And then why send it today?

I mean it depends on the kind of spicy stuff you send each other and whether or not the thing he was apprehensive about sending was outside the norm.

I mean if he's suddenly sending pictures of himself trussed up like a turkey at Christmas or with a cucumber up his arse when you usually only send dick and fanny pics to each other then then yeah I'd get why he might be a bit apprehensive!

I agree , why would you not send straight away .
He’s covering his ass about something.
Saying to you “ I thought you may not like it “, as by the way this was his reason for not sending when he made .
Only that as you’ve said , that makes zero sense cause this is the kind of stuff you guys exchange with one another all the time .
I don’t know OP , why talk shit unless you’re hiding something.

I don’t think there’s grounds for suspicion in this. I can understand taking a photo or video and not sending it or saving it for another time.

If, however, you have other reasons to be suspicious or your instincts are telling you something’s off, I’d be looking for more evidence than this.