I’m early 30s and in a relationship with a man who is also early 30s, for about 9 months now. We have 5 children between us but none together (they’ve never met).
Overall we have a good relationship, he makes me feel loved and we have a great connection romantically. There have been a couple of instances of jealously and snapping from him, but nothing that’s really been too bad.
he works very long hours, and between his job and our children we usually are only able to spend one full evening a week together, then potentially a couple of hours late one or two other nights (which I find exhausting after being a mum all day). He drinks 6 nights a week, probably only has a couple most nights then a few more on the weekend.
My dilemma is I have no idea if a future can work for us, and I’m getting to the point where I’m getting a lot of feelings for him but also worrying how we’d ever make it work. I don’t know how we’d ever afford a house together that would comfortably fit us and our children. My friends are worried his drinking will always take precedence over me, and it will become a serious problem over the years. I feel like I love him, but is that enough?
Sorry it all seems a bit jumbled, I’ve tried to just put down all the facts in hope of getting some honest advice. Maybe someone’s been in a similar situation? I feel completely torn and would appreciate any advice you have.