First of all, i know this isn't ok. I really don't know how to deal with. 8 years together, own places. He has stayed with me ee very night for about 8 months. Never stayed in his place. He pays no rent. He gets benefits but works on side. He has plenty of money. But is super tight. Until recently i paid all food and all bills. Last 2 months, I've been asking for money towards food, which he's given, but not exactly happily. I said tonight i think it's reasonable for you to contribute here financially. He was shocked when isaid £200 a month, that includes all food. Now he has the run of my garage and had made modifications to garden for his benefit, as well as he pays absolutely zero in bills at his place. I mean zero. Well, it's become a huge issue. Can't understand why i now want money. Sent reluctantly, but followed up with things like, can i change my phone, can i make tea etc. Then - i don't live here, i have my own place. I was really upset at all this, wish I'd never asked, as the atmosphere is awful. He said he helps me in other ways, went now financially. Diy, fixing my car etc, i don't think the same. Btw, I'm 50s, divorced with adult kids. I know i am sounding like i should be better than this, but I'm struggling to make sense and make this ok.