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Advice needed

10 replies

Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 01:52

My bf works at Greggs a manager there
is worrying me I’ve told my bf what she doing
and he won’t do nothing
he told me they aren’t alllwed to message them
ouyside of group chat
she did and she was putting loads of laughing faces asking him to come in early cos it was only her and one other
they don’t neee 3 people on
he replied and lied to me about what messages said but showed me in person he told me he put no back
he actually replied to her
saying no sorry I’m at gym lol
now that to me is wrong
he told me next day she asked him what he had her saved on WhatsApp he didn’t say no I haven’t your just a work colleague he said nothing
he then said he was talking to someone at work sayinf I think he a cheat and she then turns round to him and said I’ll call u up next time you with ur gf I’ll call u up he said nothing agin
he told me he reported her for messaging outside group chat told me the shop manager told her off
even her bf said to my bf I think she seeing someone
then he went into there work and spoke to one of managers and told them he think that my bf and her are doing that
she said apparently to my bf when he was picking up Heavy stuff that is hot as fuck he said. Nothing
He soad there is a rumour going round work she said she would sleep with him told him she don’t wanna sleep with her bf
she messaged him again today about work again asking Come in early
so I got upset
now am
i in wrong here

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LuckyAzureTurtle · 18/06/2026 01:56

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Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 01:56

How rude is that !!! No need

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Malibu27 · 18/06/2026 02:00

No words!!

Eideann · 18/06/2026 02:01

Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 01:56

How rude is that !!! No need

re-read your post @Kiki19930 it's rather difficult to decipher tbf

Malibu27 · 18/06/2026 02:05

A quick voicenote would be great 🤔

Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 02:11

Wow I am
sorry I am
autistic and I don’t reach out and I write what is in my head !
was also told this is a great place for advice
how wrong was I
rude people

OP posts:
NearlyNewNonny · 18/06/2026 02:23

Your second post is easier to understand. If I'm correct it seems all that happened was a WhatsApp message outside of his work group chat. It might be unusual but doesn't seem suspicious unless there's a huge drip feed coming. I wouldn't be bothered by that.

Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 02:24

Really after all I said in post I have no reason to worry ?

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moderate · 18/06/2026 07:53

Kiki19930 · 18/06/2026 02:24

Really after all I said in post I have no reason to worry ?

Here is what ChatGPT thinks you are trying to say:

My boyfriend works at Greggs, and there is a manager there who is worrying me. I have told my boyfriend what she is doing, but he won’t do anything about it.
He told me they are not allowed to message each other outside the work group chat, but she did. She sent him lots of laughing emojis and asked him to come in early because it was only her and one other person working. They do not need three people on.
He replied, then lied to me about what the messages said. He showed me the messages in person and told me he had just replied “no,” but he had actually said, “No, sorry, I’m at the gym lol.” To me, that feels wrong.
The next day, he told me she asked him what name he had saved her under on WhatsApp. He did not say, “I haven’t got you saved; you’re just a work colleague.” He just said nothing.
He also said he was talking to someone at work and said, “I think my girlfriend thinks I’m cheating.” She then turned around and said, “Next time you’re with your girlfriend, I’ll call you.” Again, he said nothing.
He told me he reported her for messaging him outside the group chat, and said the shop manager told her off.
Even her boyfriend said to my boyfriend, “I think she’s seeing someone.” Then her boyfriend went into their workplace and spoke to one of the managers, saying he thought my boyfriend and this woman were having something going on.
She apparently said to my boyfriend, while he was picking up something heavy, “That is hot as fuck.” He said nothing.
He also said there is a rumour going around at work that she said she would sleep with him, and that she does not want to sleep with her own boyfriend.
She messaged him again today about work, asking him to come in early, so I got upset.
Am I in the wrong here?

moderate · 18/06/2026 07:57

moderate · 18/06/2026 07:53

Here is what ChatGPT thinks you are trying to say:

My boyfriend works at Greggs, and there is a manager there who is worrying me. I have told my boyfriend what she is doing, but he won’t do anything about it.
He told me they are not allowed to message each other outside the work group chat, but she did. She sent him lots of laughing emojis and asked him to come in early because it was only her and one other person working. They do not need three people on.
He replied, then lied to me about what the messages said. He showed me the messages in person and told me he had just replied “no,” but he had actually said, “No, sorry, I’m at the gym lol.” To me, that feels wrong.
The next day, he told me she asked him what name he had saved her under on WhatsApp. He did not say, “I haven’t got you saved; you’re just a work colleague.” He just said nothing.
He also said he was talking to someone at work and said, “I think my girlfriend thinks I’m cheating.” She then turned around and said, “Next time you’re with your girlfriend, I’ll call you.” Again, he said nothing.
He told me he reported her for messaging him outside the group chat, and said the shop manager told her off.
Even her boyfriend said to my boyfriend, “I think she’s seeing someone.” Then her boyfriend went into their workplace and spoke to one of the managers, saying he thought my boyfriend and this woman were having something going on.
She apparently said to my boyfriend, while he was picking up something heavy, “That is hot as fuck.” He said nothing.
He also said there is a rumour going around at work that she said she would sleep with him, and that she does not want to sleep with her own boyfriend.
She messaged him again today about work, asking him to come in early, so I got upset.
Am I in the wrong here?

I think you’re overreacting. She is clearly interested in him but he has already reported her for being inappropriate. Presumably most of what you report here, you know because he has kept you in the loop. Do you have trust issues from past relationships? How old are you?

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