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Overthinking

7 replies

Friendlybutterfly · 28/05/2026 09:07

Okay y’all, I genuinely need outside opinions because this situation has me embarrassed BAD.
There’s this mail carrier on my route that I’ve had a crush on for a while. We’d have little conversations and awkward eye contact, so I thought maybe there was some mutual interest.
Last week I told him not to put any mail with a certain name in my mailbox anymore. He repeated the name back to me and I said yes.
Now here’s the problem… my ex’s name had still been on my mailbox for months because I never removed it after the breakup 😭
As I was leaving, I awkwardly tried flirting and told him:
“oh, your coworkers were right, you are handsome.”
Unfortunately I then realized most of his coworkers are men 😭 so he just awkwardly laughed while I died inside.
The next day my friend talked to him for me since she’s way more outgoing. She basically said,
“oh, you’re the one my friend thinks is handsome.”
He said,
“who’s your friend?”
even though he clearly knew who she was talking about because she had been in there the day before, and he started laughing.
She asked if he had a girlfriend and he said no. Then she asked if he had Instagram or a number, but he didn’t really want to give it up, which made me think maybe he actually DOES have someone.
So she asked if he wanted my number instead.
He said yes, but before taking it he asked:
“doesn’t she have a man? I’ve been seeing that name on the mailbox for months.”
My friend explained we’d been broken up for a while and I just hadn’t removed the name yet. He said okay and still took my number…
but he never texted 😭
He’s honestly really shy, nervous, and awkward, so I don’t know if he just felt put on the spot in the moment. At the same time, he could’ve just rejected everything from the start if he wasn’t interested.

OP posts:
Larrythecatforpm · 28/05/2026 09:08

Sorry but he’s not interested.

SleepingStandingUp · 28/05/2026 09:10

How long ago was this?

Friendlybutterfly · 28/05/2026 09:24

SleepingStandingUp · 28/05/2026 09:10

How long ago was this?

Last week

OP posts:
Friendlybutterfly · 28/05/2026 09:25

Larrythecatforpm · 28/05/2026 09:08

Sorry but he’s not interested.

Yeah you’re right

OP posts:
Larrythecatforpm · 28/05/2026 09:30

Friendlybutterfly · 28/05/2026 09:25

Yeah you’re right

Sorry but the signs are there if he’s behaving awkward with you it may be the flirting that’s making him feel awkward, especially having your number for a week and not texting. Time to give up on this one for all you know he might even be gay.

Friendlybutterfly · 28/05/2026 09:38

Larrythecatforpm · 28/05/2026 09:30

Sorry but the signs are there if he’s behaving awkward with you it may be the flirting that’s making him feel awkward, especially having your number for a week and not texting. Time to give up on this one for all you know he might even be gay.

my friend also said that lol . But yeah I'm just move on from this one

OP posts:
LoserWinner · 28/05/2026 10:52

<sigh> half term…

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