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Advice - How to interact with a man I want to date

8 replies

IberianLynx · 22/03/2026 21:11

There is a guy that I often see out and about as he lives in the same town and does deliveries to my street. I’ve had a thing for him for ages but I didn’t know if he was married, in a relationship or anything about him. I’ve never spoken to him just said ‘hello’. This evening I was scrolling through a dating site and saw that he was on there, it has made my day just to know that he is single. I’m not keen on sending a message via the dating site (PoF) as I’d rather meet someone in real life. Any advice on how I can interact with him, I’m quite quiet and don’t want to seem totally lame by asking for the time or similar!

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TryOnATeaCosy · 22/03/2026 21:12

Just like him on the site, don’t make your life harder than it has to be!

somanychristmaslights · 22/03/2026 21:23

I met my husband on PoF. It’s the ideal opportunity to reach out, just message him, or why are you even on there??

IloveJonBonJovi · 22/03/2026 21:48

I met my DH on POF. I knew him to say hello to and just messaged him in there saying hi.

TwistedWonder · 22/03/2026 22:09

Why are you on a dating app if you don’t want to message anyone and would rather meet in rl?

Message him saying ‘fancy seeing you on here’ or something like that.

shellyleppard · 22/03/2026 22:13

@IberianLynx not everyone on the dating sites is single. Just drop him a hello how are you and see how it goes??

LoyalMember · 24/03/2026 18:54

'.....Hi, I know you, you deliver to my street. Fancy meeting you here....'

Something like that would be fine.

FinallyHere · 24/03/2026 19:53

I think I’d take the opportunity to talk to him in RL, next time I saw him I’d say, hey haven’t I seen you somewhere or if I felt braver hey, was that you I saw on POF or wherever, do you fancy getting a coffee together sometime ?

UjNev · 24/03/2026 19:59

You did meet him in real life! You just happen to have seen him on an app, with a perfect pretext for messaging him. Send that message! :)

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