Help!

[heartsandponies]

Hey ladies! How would you feel if you started noticing long black hairs here and there in your boyfriend’s apartment ? Saw one on his toilet and his bathroom floor. And 2 in his bedroom and 2 in living room. Maybe im overthinking ?

I asked him as it threw me off and he said he never ever has anyone come over. Not even his male friends and that hair is for sure dragged in…but why would it be on your toilet? With the seat down? I’m so confused

He swears on his life and took it to the grave nobody has been over…

If you take out of the equation any sensible reasons then I would think woman. Sorry.

Unless he had a cleaner with hair like that, or he has a communal hallway and has walked it in from there, I think you know the answer.

People who 'swear on their lives' are always, always lying. He'll swear on his mum's and children's lives next.

And what does 'he took it to the grave' mean? Refusing to tell the truth? Yeah I can believe that.

But difficult to say considering he's still alive.

Just a pointer, him not dropping down dead immediately doesn't mean he's being honest.

Agree with all this sadly.

Overthinking is your boyfriend responding a bit late to a text and you reading too much into it... Finding long strandS (multiple, in multiple rooms) of hair is reality, those strands are right there, they exist. They had to come from someone who has been in these rooms... If you only found one, it could have come from anywhere...
No need to swear on his life, you are not pre-teens, but if it's not from a woman he'd like you to not find out, I am sure he has a valid explanation. After all, we can all recall people who come to our homes - A long-haired friend he hangs out with who sometimes comes over for a beer, a sister. You know. This shouldn't even be defence, should come automatically. The right response is: "Oh, yeah, must be XYZ's hair, just been over yesterday". I think, listen to your hunch.

Only explanations are he has a cleaner with long hair or a cat with static fur that brings in hairs from outside.

loads of possibilities. Open windows. Gym residue. You don’t trust him now

Reminds me of years ago, I found a woman's ear ring in the carpet at my DP's place. He swore up & down he didn't know where it had come from. I'm not sure I 100% believed him... trust your gut.