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Mixed feelings about a relationship while dealing with OCD

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TheCraftyDreamer · 24/02/2026 03:51

So I have a friend who’s a guy that I’ve always dismissed and overly friendly to girls. We were arguing at a party over what he said about me getting back tg with my bf, and we eventually made up. But my friends said we're being too touchy and flirty when we made up (we were both drunk). I do love my bf, we have friends of the other gender cause we secure. I just have to know if it’s weird what my friend did. Struggling with OCD has made it difficult because I never know if what I feel is real or my mind tricking me. I know I love my bf, but I've convinced myself it's not real, and I must love my friend now too.

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Lugol · 24/02/2026 07:19

Do you think you were being flirty/touchy or is that just what your friends have said?
OCD is horrendous to live with. If you haven't kissed this other guy then you've done nothing wrong and nothing to worry about.

Endofyear · 24/02/2026 08:23

Sorry, I'm not sure what you're asking here? You've got a boyfriend but you fancy your male friend?

TheCraftyDreamer · 25/02/2026 02:27

Endofyear · 24/02/2026 08:23

Sorry, I'm not sure what you're asking here? You've got a boyfriend but you fancy your male friend?

Sorry for being quite confusing. I'm just wondering if it is suspicious of my friend, and If I should take some distance.

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TheCraftyDreamer · 25/02/2026 02:29

Lugol · 24/02/2026 07:19

Do you think you were being flirty/touchy or is that just what your friends have said?
OCD is horrendous to live with. If you haven't kissed this other guy then you've done nothing wrong and nothing to worry about.

I feel quite guilty, cause I feel like its a combination of both?
I didn't kiss him, I just need to know if it is weird that he was this way and if I should keep my distance away from him.
At the end of the day I love my boyfriend, and I already made this clear to him.

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Lugol · 25/02/2026 06:50

TheCraftyDreamer · 25/02/2026 02:29

I feel quite guilty, cause I feel like its a combination of both?
I didn't kiss him, I just need to know if it is weird that he was this way and if I should keep my distance away from him.
At the end of the day I love my boyfriend, and I already made this clear to him.

It doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong OP.

You've been clear with this other guy that you love your boyfriend. So if he was being flirty etc it's on him not you. It does sound like he likes you so I would avoid him if possible.
You haven't said one thing that made me think you cheated and you didn't kiss this guy. It's not a crime to speak to someone at a party.

It sounds like these other people are stirring

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