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Really missing my ex

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:28

I really miss my ex, even though he broke up with me. I don’t know if it’s the time of the year or something?! Like I keep thinking about reaching out, I won’t as we split a long time ago but I have never really got over him, I thought I had but I haven’t and it’s hitting harder now. Haven’t been with anyone since him and I just want to reach out to him. Is this normal? Is it the time of year? Does anyone feel the same so I know it isnt just me

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Lyingonme · 19/12/2025 18:31

How long ago he he end it?

and how has your life moved on since then?

strange25 · 19/12/2025 18:37

You could always reach out and wish him a nice Christmas, but equally is it going to make you feel worse if he doesn’t reply? Why did you split? This time of year is always harder, I think people tend to reflect on the year.

CandyCaneKisses · 19/12/2025 18:38

It’s normal but I think you would regret it if you contacted him. You may be ignored or hear that he’s moved on and that might set you back even further.
Personally I hate it when an ex reaches out to me.

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:43

Good point about Christmas, I guess he may reach out to me! Well I can hope, we split up a few years ago I won’t even say how many but a long time ago. He broke up with me, just said it wasn’t working.

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Lyingonme · 19/12/2025 18:47

VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:43

Good point about Christmas, I guess he may reach out to me! Well I can hope, we split up a few years ago I won’t even say how many but a long time ago. He broke up with me, just said it wasn’t working.

Ok that is not healthy at all

many year I would guess then. Has your life not progressed at all since then? And I don’t mean men!! I mean… children? Work, friends? Etc

Lyingonme · 19/12/2025 18:48

VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:43

Good point about Christmas, I guess he may reach out to me! Well I can hope, we split up a few years ago I won’t even say how many but a long time ago. He broke up with me, just said it wasn’t working.

Have you had any contact? Has he ever reached out at Christmas time before?

Brightbluesomething · 19/12/2025 18:48

It’s normal to reflect on the year and think about the changes in your life. And it’s always difficult when someone is missing from your life.
But it sounds like you haven’t moved on from someone who left you a long time ago. I don’t think that’s particularly healthy for you, so don’t reach out. He left you and his life will be different now. If he wanted you he would have been in contact already.
It might be different if this was more recent and perhaps your first Christmas apart, but that doesn’t sound like your situation.
Maybe think about what you can do differently in the new year so you can meet someone else? Or focus on other areas of your life?

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:51

Lyingonme · 19/12/2025 18:48

Have you had any contact? Has he ever reached out at Christmas time before?

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Oh yes I should have said we spoke around 10 months ago. Haven’t spoke since, yes I have friends and I work but that’s not the same? Well not for me anyway

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:51

Brightbluesomething · 19/12/2025 18:48

It’s normal to reflect on the year and think about the changes in your life. And it’s always difficult when someone is missing from your life.
But it sounds like you haven’t moved on from someone who left you a long time ago. I don’t think that’s particularly healthy for you, so don’t reach out. He left you and his life will be different now. If he wanted you he would have been in contact already.
It might be different if this was more recent and perhaps your first Christmas apart, but that doesn’t sound like your situation.
Maybe think about what you can do differently in the new year so you can meet someone else? Or focus on other areas of your life?

I’m not interested in meeting anyone else

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Lyingonme · 19/12/2025 18:51

VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 18:51

Oh yes I should have said we spoke around 10 months ago. Haven’t spoke since, yes I have friends and I work but that’s not the same? Well not for me anyway

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Children?

what happened 10 months ago? Who reached out and how did it all terminate again?

Is he in a relationship?

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 19:29

Yes I have children. He reached out to me sent me a message asking how I was, we spoke for a bit but he didn’t respond to my last message.

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VioletBelle · 19/12/2025 19:30

im not sure if he is with anyone I don’t have him on any SM

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VioletBelle · 20/12/2025 17:07

maybe I could send an “accidental” Christmas text and make it look like ive sent it to all my contacts? See if he responds?

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