Found my partner on meetme and fabswingers.com

[Staciejanex]

Hi all
I would like some advice please for anyone that uses or nos anything about the 2 sites on my title.
I had found recently my partner of 3 years was using fab swingers.com from his search history and recent tabs and also that he had signed up to meetme.com using a different name. Is there anyone thats reading this on any of these sites can give me a bit more information on what these sites actually are. I can gather by the name and Google searches that meet me is a dating site but is fab swingers a porn website to watch porn or is it actually a hook up site? If anyone thats actually on these sites could possibly send me a private message please.
i no what i need to do and i will be ending the relationship but i need to get the facts and more information before i do so as he will just worm his way out of it with excuses like he always does!
Thank you for reading

Sent u a message hun thank u x

It isnt great no.
its the lying cheats that are actually ruining it for others. Im sorry youv found him on it.

Sorry OP but even if he lies about why he is on these sites and attempts to talk his way out of it I don't see that there can be any " good" reason for being on them. There was a thread on MN a long time ago when a guy tried to convince the OP he was doing research and that was at least an inventive lie.

Surely the very fact he is on these sites reveals what type of person he is? But then I have zero tolerance of porn so even if it was " just" for the porn aspect it would be a deal breaker for me. But the reality no doubt is he is seeking sex else where in, imo, a gross way.

Why do you need evidence? You can end a relationship at any time, for any reason.

Jesus - I despair.

it doesn’t matter what excuses he gives.

you don’t like it, it’s unacceptable to you. Just dump him.

you don’t need to give him a reason ir obliged to definitively prove he’s a wanker any more than he needs to definitively tell the Truth about how far he’s gone on these sites.

it’s really that simple

“Michael I am aware you have been joining hook up sites, I don’t care how far it’s gone. I’m not interested in any excuses or bullshit - we are over”

OP you may never get solid evidence, that doesn’t mean you have to stay with him.

I’m sure he’ll come up with lots of excuses, he’s not going to admit to anything much.
You aren’t under any obligation to believe him.

Think about what this is doing to you, and what he is actually bringing to your life.

Do you want to spend the next few years on the look out for more evidence while he gets better at coverig his tracks?

If im honest i probably sound like an absolute mug for saying this but hes done this sort of thing before a fair few times and okay I guess its my own fault for allowing him to get away with it all these times but im scared to leave him as If I do ill have nobody
I moved to a new place 200 miles away from my home town from police and social services to get away from my abusive ex after he put me into intensive care and I had to escape from him with my children. My mum moved up with me so I wasnt alone I suffer really bad with severel different mental health issues and struggle with abandonment and being alone. I stayed single for a year then met my current partner. We've been together now 3 years but I still dont know anybody arpund here as I have just kept myself to myself focused on my children settling in etc as they are my number 1 priority and with my eldest having autism and adhd change doesnt go well for him. Unfortunately my mum passed away 30th Dec last year from stage 4 cancer I had a month of knowing she had cancer before she died. So now all I have here is my partner thats why I have kept letting him get away with this behaviour because if he leaves or I leave him I will be completely alone i have my kids yes but I will still be alone and I just cant mentally deal with being alone if that makes sense so yeah to some people im a mug and whatever else and yes your probably right but I just cant handle it all anymore
Sorry for the essay and I hope you understand without judgement

It’s clearly your partners thing though 🤷‍♀️

I’m on Fab.

It’s most definitely a hookup site. I get multiple messages every day asking if I want to meet. Often accompanied by dick pics.

You can set privacy settings so only certain demographics can find you on a search - age, gender, sexuality, race, etc.

You can also upload photos and videos, either public or friends only. So it can be used as a porn site too as you can scroll through popular photos and videos.

People who have met can verify each other and leave comments - some will be about friendly they were over a drink, others will be more explicit and spell out the sexual encounter.

If you want to DM me some details, I’ll happily search for him. But TBH I’m not sure you need all the gory details. You don’t trust him, that’s enough of a reason to end the relationship.

Yes please if you dont mond ill message you now xx

Being blunt I'm afraid your mental health is only being damaged further by an unsettling and untrustworthy man like this. You will be happier and healthier without him. Do you still have social services involvement or similar, if not how about Women's Aid for some support? I have a feeling this man is not nice to you generally.

No he is nice generally theres no abuse here or anything please dont get my words twisted hes not abusive. He just seems to like other girls attention i think.... nop not been with social for years now x