Non molestation breach help. Trigger warning

[EllaS94]

I have a non molestation order against my ex due to him being abusive for our entire relationship and it escalating with harassment, stalking, death threats, trying to turn my friends against me, false allegations to social services after we split. Thankfully the order was granted pretty much straight away at the hearing. Anyway he has now breached it a grand total of 5 times. He’s been wanted by police since 2 breaches around 3 weeks ago but now there are 5 breaches. Police also want to pursue a stalking and harassment charge in top of the non mol breaches. The officer handling my case said there’s a chance when he’s arrested he won’t be let out until it goes to court. He has previous violent convictions, a long string of previous domestic abuse before me. I don’t want to get my hopes up that all this will finally be over and end in a conviction for him and hopefully a restraining order. Does anyone have any similar stories or any insight to what I can expect? The police have been so supportive and so great to me. It’s just a case of waiting for him to be arrested and see what happens but I’m so scared of being let down again. He was put on bail earlier this year for the abuse against me but unfortunately no charges at that time. We’re also going through family court where he’s told horrific lies about me and is desperately trying to regain control of me through the court system. I don’t know how I’ve managed to keep going but all I want is for me and my kids to be safe. I’ve been receiving support from an IDVA for months now and she’s been great. I just need this to all stop so I can live my life again. Any insight or advice would be so welcome. I’m truly exhausted and scared for my life. Thank you

im so sorry you’re going through this. I am nearly two years on from my ex receiving a non-molestation order which he breached many times within the first couple of weeks. He was a law unto himself.
Are you in the UK? I have done the Freedom, Unbreakable & Befriending courses which are run by the police and Living Without Abuse organisation which I found really helpful.
They were zoom video calls once a week and I met other women who had gone through similar awful situations.
Coercive & controlling behaviour is recognised. I had the same, him trying (successfully too) to turn my friends and family against me. Him & his mother contacted social services a number of times. All allegations were quashed but it hurts like hell when you’re going through it.
I don’t actually know how I am still here… but I dug really deep for my children’s sakes and you can too.
I no longer have friendships with many of my old ‘friends’ nor my family but I’m hellbent of making sure my children are safe.
I’m a changed person from what I have been through and even two years on I’ve only recently realised that I cannot go back to the person I once was. It’s a different way of living bow. Frequent nightmares and I can still hear his shouting when I’m in a quiet room.
I’m sorry, I don’t have any answers for you but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone with what you are going through.

Yes, had a non molestation against him and then he attacked me infront of our children

Once i reported the attack He was found guilty in court and court ordered no contact or communication from him to me and the children.

It's been 8 years of peace now. I still occasionally have nightmares but at least it's not my real life anymore amd my children are not growing up around domestic violence

During these 6 years he's reached out to my family occasionally with lies and made 6 Facebook accounts to stalk me on ( never contacts me directly but his new Facebooks always pop up on my people you may know and we don't have any mutual friends ) but we moved 60 miles away 8 years ago and he has no clue where we are

Good luck x