Cheating

[Nothappy76]

How can I get my guy to stop cheating on .e with my old friend she used to be my best friend now they been sleeping with eachother for 4 years and still deny it when I hsve you've recordings I have a secret camera and seen they in the car having sex or why is he doing this why not just be with her leave me alone

You can't stop him, but you can choose not to be with him and that would be your very best option. There are plenty of men out there and they are not all dickheads.

What made you think you can control what another person does?

You can't!

If he wants to sleep with other people, he will.

You can only control what YOU choose to do...

Perhaps you could first choose to step out of this relationship, and look after your own needs.

why not just be with her

I think he is with her love

Only way you can stop this is end the relationship,stop being a doormat

Why would you bother. For goodness sake get some self respect and bin this person. He is not your boyfriend is he if he has been shaggibg someone else for four years. Sorry to be harsh but I can't believe this.

4 years! Just walk away with your head held high, leave them to their bad characters. They’ll self destruct, don’t be in the fall out zone.

How to get him to leave me alone i do leave him and he comes to my house after a couple days missing toys to tell me he cares but yesterday I found wrapping paper that said baby it's cold out on it mind u in 6 years we been together he's never got me a gift for any holiday or biryhday so he must of been wrapping one for her

How to get him to leave me alone i do leave him and he comes to my house after a couple days missing toys to tell me he cares but yesterday I found wrapping paper that said baby it's cold out on it mind u in 6 years we been together he's never got me a gift for any holiday or biryhday so he must of been wrapping one for her

Don’t let him in, simple. Make the decision abd stick to it. I’m not saying it’ll be easy but if you make a solid decision to end it, it’ll be best for you all round.

Jesus Christ, how low is your self esteem that your boyfriend has been cheating with your best friend for 4 years out of the 6 you’ve been together, he’s never once bought you a gift in those 6 years and you aren’t asking how to dump his sorry ass, you’re asking how to get him to stop cheating?

simply put - you can’t. He chooses to cheat. You choose to stay. So he knows he doesn’t have to stop. Put yourself first, dump him and the friend, block them both, change locks, etc. and get therapy before you start a new relationship to work out why you’re so willing to take these scraps.

OP you can stop seeing him if you want to - don't answer the door, or calls or texts. Tell him to leave you alone or you'll report him to the police for harassment.

This cannot be real

He's cheating on you because he wants to and because he has been getting away with it for 4 years. He won't change - he's having the time of his life playing former best friends off one another. He's highly manipulative and controlling and both of you would be far better off without this abusive narcissist.