What would you think of this text exchange?

[Tealbox]

Mid text conversation. Partner of 4yrs. Both in forties…
Me: Actually I’m wifey material
Him: 800 boyfriends and only one married you?
Me: A few boyfriends and one I chose to marry!
Him: If you say so
Him: Definitely more than a few 🤔

What do I think? I’m asking ‘where’s the respect? What does he really want?’

I’m just speechless. Haven’t been in contact with him since yesterday and don’t want to, but wondering if I was overreacting.

He’s a misogynist who thinks you’ve slept with too many blokes.

he has limited respect for you.

And why the fuck does anyone want to be “wifey material”?

I think it was a bit of jokey banter, but you clearly don't and this is why context and knowing the full backstory is so important.

Four years is a long time. Is this the latest in a long line of unpleasant behaviour or totally out of character?

I think you're both too old for this bullshit.

I suppose it’s just the last straw in my mental scale of what I’m able to tolerate. He went to the Tony Robinson March. Keeps blaming my hormones when I ask him to be accountable, makes derogatory comments about overweight women etc etc

He's one of those old school twats who separates women into two categories - "good to shag" and "good to marry". You are clearly good to shag but not good enough to marry. Nice.

OMG why are you even asking. Bin the cunt.

Why on earth were you trying to persuade this horrorshow, or indeed anyone else, that you’re ’wifey material’?

The Tommy Robinson stuff is enough to dump him, but yeah that as context to your texts suggests you're shagging a racist misogynist.

Oooooo, misogynist and DARVO.

Life's too short and his list of shittery is too long.

Sorry, wrong quote.

"Keeps blaming my hormones when I ask him to be accountable, makes derogatory comments about overweight women etc etc"

Being a racist is the important thing OP. Dump him for that (although you already knew that, and didn't dump him)

The text thing is meh. If my DP said it I would take it as a joke because he would be joking. If he was a racist misogynistic prick I would take it badly.

He doesn’t sound like a man you (or anyone else) would want as a friend. So why would you want him as anything else??

He sounds really disrespectful and misogynistic

You can tolerate racism, islamophobia and misogyny about other women, but draw the line at not being "wifey" material in his eyes?
Grim.

@Tealbox The man’s doing you a favour by repeatedly showing you who he is. Yet you’re still with him and asking MN if you’re over reacting? 🤦🏻‍♀️