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Am I being selfish?

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LookingForAdvice25 · 21/10/2025 20:20

I just got out of the hospital after 4 days as an inpatient. I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant and got struck with a pretty horrific dose of Influenza which tbh quite literally wiped me for days! Getting up for a wee is a task!!
I’ve been desperate to get home and doctors finally agreed under the agreement I would remain on bed rest, take regular medication and not run myself into the ground.
i have another child at home whom my husband has been manning the fort with. Whilst I hugely appreciate all he has done for him whilst I’ve been in hospital, I got home today and everything has been left back to me. I told him bed rest was a non negotiable of my discharge but he now says he must have caught what I have and doesn’t feel up to watching our son so the rules of my bed rest need to be bent. I’m not a sicky person and very rarely take even a day off work, but I’m not exaggerating when I say I’m out of breath walking to the bathroom!
I told him he should call the GP if his symptoms are severe and his doctor advised an appt in a few days time if symptoms don’t subside…..

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or expecting too much?
I need to return to the hospital on Monday for a transfusion after a full course of antibiotics and am dreading being so rundown that they admit me again!
HELP! Am I just overtired and over thinking? Am I being unreasonable if he has caught the same virus? Or should I be putting my foot down.

OP posts:
Lmnop22 · 21/10/2025 20:35

You’re not being unreasonable, he’s being lazy and unsupportive.

You’re literally 9 months pregnant and if you didn’t have flu he should be doing most of the childcare/chores!

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