Last year I had my suspicions about my husband messaging a colleague so I decided to check his phone- this is not something I do lightly as I strongly believe you should be allowed your privacy but something felt off so I just had to look. I only checked his Instagram messages and the thread between him and said colleague and as I thought there were inappropriate messages between them. Mainly from him but both flirting in an unacceptable manner as two married individuals. I confronted him, he was sorry, tried to say it was banter blah blah blah. Anyway he blocked her and as far as I’m aware has had no further contact.
The other night he was sat across from me and I saw him open his instagram messages- in the inbox was a message from someone he went to college with years ago. I thought it was odd as not sure why he’d message this person after years of having zero contact.
So again, curiosity got the better of me and a few days later I thought I’d look and see what had been said between them- however the message was gone. He had loads of historical messages on there from other people from weeks ago but her more recent one wasn’t there at all.
This is dodgy right? I really need to bring it up and ask him but obviously he’ll then know I have looked which I hate myself for but the trust has obviously been fractured.