affair or not affair and just tired PMT??

[Barnical]

I've popped this on chat, but would like to know what you all think as I feel like I'm going a bit mad!
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Enough to drive anyone mad Barnical!

TBH, (have read the other thread) if he is, it's not likely that he'll admit it. I'm sure some do but IME, usually not.

My xP parried the question not only when I asked him but when mutual friends, including male friends spoke with him too. I saw video's on his phone and even then he tried to pass it off as a one night stand. Spineless git. (My xP, not your DH!)

Anyhow, dont doubt your instinct. If trust is wavering anyway then protect yourself and find your own answers, don't necessarily rely on his. Whether he is or not, it sounds as though he's playing a very silly game and not being as aware of protecting your relationship as maybe he should.

Having gone through similar, from the info you have given, it all sounds very suspicious.

One of the tell tale signs is when they talk about someone and then suddenly stop talking about that person. That is usually a sign that things have moved to another level and they feel more comfortable not talking about the ow/om with their partner.

There are other things to look for, such as a change in their behaviour, accusing you of things (transfering the guilt), a change in their sexual behaviour (sometimes they may stop wanting sex with you and other times their appetite may increase).

Sorry if this doesn't help Sometimes their brains are in their pants!

only sometimes stirling ?
Have answered on chat.
Take care