What did I do wrong?

[VeganPizza]

Situation is,
I met a seemingly lovely guy via OLD. Matched, chatted for a while before actual dates,he explained he is separated and coparents his daughter with his ex who is a lesbian. had 2 lovely dates, second date he kissed me.
he message after to say he had the ‘best time’ and really wants to see me again.
he is currently on holiday abroad which is fine and texts have been less- expected as he is on holiday, he mentioned that his ex and her family are also on holiday which I didn’t think much of as he has said they still do family stuff together as coparents. But he still asked if we can meet again once he is home.
then yesterday I didn’t hear from him at all which is weird as I usually get something once/ twice through day, got a good morning message this morning, then Tonight he just messaged to say that he’s not in an emotionally stable place to date right now, it’s not a reflection on me at all as he thinks I’m a lovely person and fun etc but he just wants to focus on ‘healing’ etc Then blocks me.
I’m so confused??
he basically said it’s not you it’s me which means it defo is me.
I feel like total shot right now.
nonpoint to this really other than to try and understand.

You’ve dodged a bullet.
Next!

He might be genuine in what he is telling you. He might have taken stock of his situation and realises he needs time to get over things.

Blocking because he doesn’t want to be talked into continuing.

How long had he been single before dating you?

His wife is not a lesbian and they are still married.
he’s a cheat and he was probably on the brink of getting caught.
its not you it’s him .

110% this is what's happened.

Fuck! I don’t even think of this.
im such a fool 😢come to think of it that explains a lot.
he says he has been single since 2023.
clearly not.

This was my first date and second date since I separated 2 years ago and if this is what it is like I am done.
this was the only guy that messaged me anything sensible on hinge, despite my profile clearly stating I was not looking for hookups all the other men messaged me to suggest a ‘casual’ thing or were sexual
in their messages after maybe 2-3 messages.
ffs, I’m doomed to be single forever.
i was really attracted to him and he seemed so genuine up until this point, was a gentleman on our dates etc.
never again!

Try not to let it get to you . Dating is hard . You only had 2 dates . Don’t put all your eggs in one basket and try to treat it as a sort of hobby around everything else you’ve got going on in life. Use it to fill any free time but don’t let it become overwhelming.

He sounds like was shopping and he got cold feet about having an affair