Hi all
I recently found out my DP had watched porn not even 1 hour after we were intimate.
There were also other times he has viewed porn - on average 2-3 times per week.
For context, DP has always had issues with "finishing" - he claims this has been with every partner he has had - ever. He has no issues with getting an erection and staying hard for a good 20-30 minutes.
We have been together for almost 3 years and this has been an ongoing issue - we moved in together about two months ago. I did think that moving in together would sort of "help" matters where by porn wouldn't be used as much, but it seems not.
Just to add - I dont have a negative overall view of watching porn as long as it isnt excessive or having an impact on your relationships - which it clearly is with ours when we are living together and it is being used after we have sex.
Obviously, it isnt the best feeling for any partner to feel they aren't "enough" for their partners desires.
I have addressed this with DP who has gotten upset, said he doesnt want to hurt my feelings and that he knows he has a problem with using porn as a crutch to these difficulties rather than actually facing them. He says he isnt going to view porn any more.
How do we move forward with this? Obviously this is a deep issue rather than simply deleting porn and avoiding it. Would counselling etc help? He doesnt have much self esteem, confidence etc (despite my efforts to raise them when I can)