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When did you/your DP say ‘I love you?’

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Jade3450 · 15/08/2025 17:32

Long time lurker here :)

I’m in a newish relationship - we’ve known each other for 6 months but have been together for 2 months.

I think I’m in love, but for various reasons don’t want to be the one to say it first (although I will eventually if he doesn’t 😂)

When did you/your DP first say ‘I love you’? Is 2 months too early?

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CountryGirlInTheCity · 15/08/2025 17:56

We said it after 3/4 months and had known each other for a few months before that. We were kids though (18/19)…still going strong 36 years later mind you!

I’ve no idea whether 2 months is too early - what’s the rest of the relationship like? I’ve known people who claim to know they’ve met ‘the one’ and are in love after date two and others who have taken much longer. Saying it is one thing but it’s how you behave that really matters.

ComfortFoodCafe · 15/08/2025 17:57

A year for me. 18 months for dh. Still together twenty years later! :)

ToraMama · 15/08/2025 17:58

Was only a few weeks. We fell in love with each other before we even met in person but kept that to ourselves.

Kerkyra2024 · 15/08/2025 21:07

I said it first after about a month. My boyfriend took a little longer as he wanted to be sure he meant it before saying it (not helped that he was badly hurt in his previous relationship) but I was good with that as I only wanted him to say it back if he meant it

user593 · 15/08/2025 21:13

8 years after our first DC was born 😅but I know that’s unusual.

bumblebramble · 15/08/2025 21:16

Very early on, second week I think, after meeting in person but we’d been chatting for a while before that. I said it by accident because I have a habit of saying “love you bye” to friends and family, and it slipped out. He said “yeah, I love you too”. But I knew from the moment we met that he was the one.

I’d always been coolly cynical until I met dh.

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Jade3450 · 15/08/2025 23:05

Kerkyra2024 · 15/08/2025 21:07

I said it first after about a month. My boyfriend took a little longer as he wanted to be sure he meant it before saying it (not helped that he was badly hurt in his previous relationship) but I was good with that as I only wanted him to say it back if he meant it

This is a similar scenario, so something tells me he won’t be the one to say it first :(

I’m torn between telling him how I feel to reassure him and not coming on too strong and frightening him off.

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LadyMonicaBaddingham · 15/08/2025 23:48

About 8 weeks, but to be fair we were engaged in five months and have now been married 24 years

ColdTofuSandwich · 15/08/2025 23:58

About 3 weeks Dh. Me maybe a couple of months. Married 20 years now.

OrlandointheWilderness · 16/08/2025 08:25

Me about 8 months in. DP two weeks later. 4 years in now.

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