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How to safely report abuse and get a restraining order?

3 replies

BeBoldPeachHiker · 12/08/2025 08:07

Location: Tennessee

Hello,

I’m reaching out because I need help and protection from someone who has been controlling, manipulative, and threatening toward me over the past 3 years. The situation has escalated to the point where I feel unsafe. This person has:

Pressured me into sexual situations when I wasn’t willing, including choking me until I complied.

Asked friends behind my back for threesomes and pressured others to join without my knowledge.

Used emotional manipulation like “breaking and fixing” me — saying mean things to make me doubt myself, then praising me to keep control.

Made me fearful of angering him, sometimes getting physically violent, and threatened to hurt me if I left or disobeyed.

Accused me falsely of cheating and stalked me by asking others about me and trying to isolate me from friends.

Admitted plans to kidnap me, which scares tf out me.

Made jokes about choking me in front of friends and said to others that I was “trained right,” showing he views me as something he owns.

I want to file for a temporary restraining order or get some kind of legal protection, but I want to do it without my name being publicly connected unless it becomes necessary later. And something that is relatively cheap as i just turned 18. I am scared of retaliation and want to keep my identity confidential as much as possible.

Please help me understand how I can report this safely and get the protection I need without exposing myself to further risk. I would also appreciate any support or guidance on how to proceed.

Thank you for your help.

OP posts:
Endofyear · 12/08/2025 09:03

Hi OP, I'm in the UK so don't know the procedures involved in the US - we have an organisation here called Women's Aid that help and support women in domestic violence situations. Is there something like that in your area?

After a quick Google, I found this -
https://www.domesticshelters.org/help/tn

Please reach out to a good friend or family member to support you, this is not something you should carry alone. And you can talk to the police for advice too.

I hope you will get help and keep yourself safe 💐

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Floyd1989 · 12/08/2025 22:28

Hi OP, I’m so sorry to hear of the awful experiences you have had. I am in the UK, so not sure of what organisations there are locally to you, but the previous posters look like they have found some useful links for you.
Do you have a close friend or family member that you trust and can ask for support from them? Please stay safe and seek help from an organisation local to you. Sending you strength and love x

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