What do I do???

[Yolanda07]

I have been with my partner for nearly 8 years now. After struggling to get pregnant I finally gave birth 3 years ago.
Since having our child we don’t really sleep together, he never makes a move like he use to.
I recently seen his browser history (by snooping which I shouldn’t have 😩) to find lots of porn and even OnlyFans!
I am upset and hurt by this but can’t confront as I went on his phone! What do I do!!!

You know you need to talk to him and say that you are unhappy with your sex life, and him. The porn i could kind of understand, but the OnlyFans, absolutely not.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with a man who uses porn? He gets his sexual gratification from watching women being assaulted, violated and abused. Porn alters men's perception of women and makes it impossible to have a normal relationship. Him using Only Fans is a symptoms of his distorted view of women as sexual objects.

I don't see how you have any alternative but to talk to him about what you have seen.

With OF you sign up to an account and pay for it. I think you can also have 1 on 1 time with the women, but am unsure.

You need to have a conversation and lay out your boundaries. First try and find out why he doesn't want to be intimate. Then try and talk about how that can be resolved.

Second, tackle the porn/OF situation. You might not mind porn but subscriptions cross the line. It's your call.