And now MIL has turned her back on me.

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H and I seperated in March (he was cheating) but I remained friends with his mum, and she would pop round often as she always did. A couple of weeks ago she stopped replying to my texts and would'nt answer my calls, H tells me someone has reported her to the benefit office saying he (h) lives there, and she thinks its me. I did nor report her and I am gutted she does'nt know me better than that, I have been through so much crap in the last 2 months, and I'v done nothing to deserve any of it, it does'nt help that H is having a relationship with this girl (and I mean girl) right outside my window, and she seems to have been welcomed into his family with open arms......talk about feeling like a reject

I'm still friends with my ex's mum..

Admittedly it has taken a few years to get to where we are now and we did fall out in the beginning over her son, his new girlfriend and loads of other stuff but we have both agreed that the kids come first and we never speak about her son (my ex). we steer clear of that subject!

Now she will come to my house to get the kids if she wants to see them. I go to hers for a cuppa too and we still get on ok.

I think maybe you should back off from contacting her for a while.. she is in a difficult position and perhaps torn between the new girlfriend and you and wants to remain loyal to her son.

Have you told her that it wasn't you who reported her to the benefits people?

Yes, I have told her several times by text, because she wont answer the phone.