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Fsjhyr2567 · 26/06/2025 02:19

My fiance had an emotional affair a year ago with a cleaner woman at his work, she's married and I found dozens of texts to and from her on his phone, yes I looked because I was bloody suspicious, and rightly it turned out. They stopped it and I thought all was ok, even better a few weeks ago his work moved him to a different site where this woman doesn't work. However I have just discovered his mother of all people has sent him photos to his email of this woman from off Facebook...!!!! I'm stuck here as have been left house bound the last three years due to a botched medical procedure. No one to talk to here, he assured me he was over her but obviously not as the photos were sent last weekend. Bastard. And to think that bitch of his mother would do that knowing how unwell I am. I really can't trust anyone at all now. Been together 13 years .

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lilacbreeze · 26/06/2025 02:55

Tell his lovely mother what her son has been doing. Do you have any family who could help move you and let you stay at theirs? This sounds a nightmare.

WaryHiker · 26/06/2025 04:24

Why would she do that? His mother clearly already knows what he's up to and is encouraging him in it.

Fsjhyr2567 · 26/06/2025 04:26

lilacbreeze · 26/06/2025 02:55

Tell his lovely mother what her son has been doing. Do you have any family who could help move you and let you stay at theirs? This sounds a nightmare.

No, I'm stuck here. He also had porn dvds sent to her house so I wouldn't find out, I'm not quite as stupid as he thinks.

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Fsjhyr2567 · 26/06/2025 04:28

WaryHiker · 26/06/2025 04:24

Why would she do that? His mother clearly already knows what he's up to and is encouraging him in it.

I've no idea, I really thought she liked me but obviously not. She hasn't visited me once since I've been unwell.

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healthybychristmas · 26/06/2025 05:13

Porn DVDs? When did all this happen?

GentlemanJay · 26/06/2025 10:04

He’s paid for porn DVDs? Doesn’t he know he can watch it free on the internet?

Fsjhyr2567 · 27/06/2025 03:40

healthybychristmas · 26/06/2025 05:13

Porn DVDs? When did all this happen?

A month or two ago. Last November he bought about half a dozen lads mags off eBay, thought I wouldn't find out but of course I was here when they arrived. Said he had some when he was younger (he's now 52), and regretted getting rid of them. I just find this sordid and very disrespectful.

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