Am I unreasonable

[Mandseven]

My partner was following women on instagram and Tiktok and I found out. They were posing in underwear and he says he doeesnt know how he came to be following them, haha. He deleted them but I also found out he'd been liking a womans photos on facebook that were selfies of only her but he never added me on facebook or liked any of my pics. We have been together 17 years and he also is secretive with his phone. Am I being insecure?

He has given me the silent treatment in the past and I found a screenshot of a dick pic on a notification that came up on his phone. I feel like I need to leave ASAP then he acts kind and I doubt myself. I suppose I know deep down what the answer is, but I need someone to tell me.

Those few things on their own aren’t enough for anyone to say whether YABU or not, but his response when you talk to him about it might do.

FWIW I ‘like’ pics and selfies of an ex FWB who I’m still friends with on FB. Just because we’re not shagging these days it doesn’t mean I lost all interest in what he’s up to, and he travels a lot so I enjoy seeing his photos from around the world.

The underwear clad tiktok women would bother me, so the fact that he unfollowed them is a good sign.

I don’t use TikTok much as I’m a grown up, but if it shows you stuff because you happen to have glanced momentarily at similar then I can imagine he’ll get lots of women in bikinis because he spent a moment too long looking at one once!

Ok that puts a different spin on it. If he’s sent dick pics then a) ewww and b) dump him.

Yes he likes porn, and when I ask him about these issues he gets very defensive. Also the women he followed were very slutty.

The women were very slutty were they? They might not even be real people. Or women.
He's sending dick pics out to people, so he's the one who's being slutty.
You know you need to chuck him now, don't you?

Yeah sounds like he’s the slut tbh 🤷‍♀️

Yes I do. He even denied the dick pic was his. Thank you

Slutty? Really?

When I say slutty I mean as in porno pics not just bikini pics etc

Slutty is a horribly misogynistic and pejorative word.

So he's receiving dick pics and saving them?! I don't see how that's any better! And obviously he's a fucking liar. Dump! X

Totally agree, I'm so angry, he is a liar and I can't forgive him. It helps to get your responses on here.

Yes please. Thank you

Any updates on the matter?