How to make things fun

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NC for this.

DH and I have a great marriage, overall, we're very happy in our lives.

But... our sex life is definitely lacking after 20 years together! We end up just doing the usual foreplay/positions and it's just a bit...meh! We've chatted and both feel the same, but neither of us knows what to change.

Neither of us have any 'kinks', he's not bothered by lingerie and toys don't do it for me. We tried role play but we both just ended up laughing feeling daft (not dissimilar to that Gavin & Stacey scene, although minus the glasses 😅 )

Not really sure what else there is?! Maybe I'm just really bloody boring.

Appreciate any advice.

If you post this in the Sex topic I'm sure you'll get loads of advice from the experts on there.

Hi op there is just so much you could do and try. Being able to laugh about what doesn’t work for you is an amazing advantage you maybe just need to keep on trying until you find something you both love.

From being on MN I have found that a lot of people don’t invest the kind of money they would on a hobby or something else important to them. It maybe that the toys lingerie you have tried just weren’t the ones for you.

Lovehoney gets a lot of recommendations on here but I am not a fan. Have you tried position enhancing cushions if not have a look at liberator they invented them and they also have a collection of high end toys and brands and a classy website not a bad place to start.

Look up hello Jenny Keane on Instagram I really like her (I'm also not interested in kink or roleplay!)

Look up the pillow talks podcast, they are very relatable, fun to listen to and have great advice

Thank you! Will take the advice :)