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Women liking my husbands pics

27 replies

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:16

Hello

I know everybody is different and this may not bother some women but...

Would it bother you if a woman (I think she may be a work colleague) of my husband. Starts liking his pics but also scrolls down to 2022 and likes his gym videos from then ?

My husband does not post too much maybe 5 times a year .

He has also all of a sudden turned his privacy settings on where he can only see all his likes .

I am probably reading too much into it right ?
Something is just bugging me that she has scrolled right down his page and is liking old gym videos

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Alwaysbackandforth · 20/02/2025 15:18

Yes I wouldn't be happy with this. Especially given the change in his behaviour.
Is she a new colleague?

Sadcafe · 20/02/2025 15:18

The fact that he’s changed his privacy settings suggests it’s not entirely innocent

Tulipsandaffodils · 20/02/2025 15:18

Couldn’t give a shit who likes his pics. I’d be more concerned about the privacy settings, is it because he knows you’re stalking and being jealous, so instead of dealing with it, or blocking colleagues, he’s just stopped you looking?

Pigsinblankets13 · 20/02/2025 15:19

This would raise alarm bells for me tbh. I'm embarrassed for her!!!

trainermush · 20/02/2025 15:19

Well i'd be taking the piss if my DH posted gym pics tbh

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:19

Pigsinblankets13 · 20/02/2025 15:19

This would raise alarm bells for me tbh. I'm embarrassed for her!!!

Alarm bells how?

Is the worrying thing about her liking his older videos ?

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ShouldIEvenBother · 20/02/2025 15:20

"He has also all of a sudden turned his privacy settings on where he can only see all his likes" 🚩 - what is his 'explanation' for this, OP?

No woman I know has ever said "I'm so glad I ignored my gut feelings"

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:21

trainermush · 20/02/2025 15:19

Well i'd be taking the piss if my DH posted gym pics tbh

Yes he doesn't post gym videos any more, I just wouldn't scroll down on some other man's pictures and like old videos . It's a bit strange .

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trainermush · 20/02/2025 15:21

oh yes I agree it's strange to like them too.

starryheart · 20/02/2025 15:21

Don't people communicate with their husbands anymore?
I'd have a lot of questions but I would be confronting him about it.
He's your husband and something even if it's innocent is making you uncomfortable so you need a conversation.

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:22

Tulipsandaffodils · 20/02/2025 15:18

Couldn’t give a shit who likes his pics. I’d be more concerned about the privacy settings, is it because he knows you’re stalking and being jealous, so instead of dealing with it, or blocking colleagues, he’s just stopped you looking?

Yes, I'm not so bothered about women liking his pics it's the change of settings and also her liking his old videos .

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something2say · 20/02/2025 15:32

I think she could be interested in him, otherwise why look thro his old vids? And presumably she knows he is married so what would you make of her doing it?

I say this as my partner has a woman where they work and she is always sleeping with guys from work, and doesn't care a jot if they are engaged, married or wife is pregnant.

I'd be wary of why he is keeping their interactions private, there are people who are predatory and don't care, and there are men who will get swept up in that.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 20/02/2025 15:36

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:19

Alarm bells how?

Is the worrying thing about her liking his older videos ?

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When I start having sex with someone, I look through all their social media to that dopamine rush.

Pigsinblankets13 · 20/02/2025 16:00

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:19

Alarm bells how?

Is the worrying thing about her liking his older videos ?

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Just strange behaviour - she obviously wants to get his attention and stroke his ego...you wouldn't behave like this if it was just a regular work colleague!!!

Alwaysbackandforth · 20/02/2025 16:07

something2say · 20/02/2025 15:32

I think she could be interested in him, otherwise why look thro his old vids? And presumably she knows he is married so what would you make of her doing it?

I say this as my partner has a woman where they work and she is always sleeping with guys from work, and doesn't care a jot if they are engaged, married or wife is pregnant.

I'd be wary of why he is keeping their interactions private, there are people who are predatory and don't care, and there are men who will get swept up in that.

Is it your partner who tells you about this woman who is perpetually seducing men?
I would wonder why.

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:08

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:16

Hello

I know everybody is different and this may not bother some women but...

Would it bother you if a woman (I think she may be a work colleague) of my husband. Starts liking his pics but also scrolls down to 2022 and likes his gym videos from then ?

My husband does not post too much maybe 5 times a year .

He has also all of a sudden turned his privacy settings on where he can only see all his likes .

I am probably reading too much into it right ?
Something is just bugging me that she has scrolled right down his page and is liking old gym videos

Thank you for everybody's input.

I knew something isn't right.

I know for sure I defo wouldn't be scrolling down and liking other women's husbands years old videos

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DorothyStorm · 20/02/2025 16:10

Starts liking his pics but also scrolls down to 2022 and likes his gym videos from then ?
My husband does not post too much maybe 5 times a year
These could be connected. If she clicks on one photo or video from his photo album and just scrolls through them, she would be at 2022 in 10 pictures. So not scrolling down two years, just flicking through two photos / videos.

Pokadotspink · 20/02/2025 16:11

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 15:21

Yes he doesn't post gym videos any more, I just wouldn't scroll down on some other man's pictures and like old videos . It's a bit strange .

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strange yes, but then they are on facebook as part of that profile, i had similar debate when added on a friends profile because i read their whole profile, (not to long) and friend was like why, but to me if they put it on facebook and then add you, then why would i not read the profile ?

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:11

DorothyStorm · 20/02/2025 16:10

Starts liking his pics but also scrolls down to 2022 and likes his gym videos from then ?
My husband does not post too much maybe 5 times a year
These could be connected. If she clicks on one photo or video from his photo album and just scrolls through them, she would be at 2022 in 10 pictures. So not scrolling down two years, just flicking through two photos / videos.

Ok I do understand that bit, but who would do that knowing the man is married .

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KookyPeachViewer · 20/02/2025 16:13

She thinks he's tasty and he loves the attention but knows you won't approve so hid his likes to spare himself.

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ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:16

KookyPeachViewer · 20/02/2025 16:13

She thinks he's tasty and he loves the attention but knows you won't approve so hid his likes to spare himself.

Not being mean about the lady, but she is old, that's why I presumed she is a work colleague.

If it was a younger woman acting thirsty that would be different. That's why I can't make this out.

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KookyPeachViewer · 20/02/2025 16:17

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:11

Ok I do understand that bit, but who would do that knowing the man is married .

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Someone who's brown nosing the boss?
Someone who was drunk and has a secret crush?
Someone misled that there is mutual attraction?
Someone who is up for an affair? He might have not mentioned you or gave the impression he is separating.

The only innocent explanation I can think of is if she is a lesbian fitness trainer and they had talked about the gym

KookyPeachViewer · 20/02/2025 16:19

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:16

Not being mean about the lady, but she is old, that's why I presumed she is a work colleague.

If it was a younger woman acting thirsty that would be different. That's why I can't make this out.

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How much older? I regularly see women in their 40s and 50s lusting after younger men on Tiktok comments.

Could she be his long lost mum or elderly aunt who just discovered 'liking'?

Chaoticgarden · 20/02/2025 16:20

KookyPeachViewer · 20/02/2025 16:19

How much older? I regularly see women in their 40s and 50s lusting after younger men on Tiktok comments.

Could she be his long lost mum or elderly aunt who just discovered 'liking'?

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Oh come on. Obviously not.

ItGhoul · 20/02/2025 16:39

ok1992 · 20/02/2025 16:11

Ok I do understand that bit, but who would do that knowing the man is married .

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I’ve never in my life considered marital status as a factor in something as inconsequential as clicking ‘like’ on Facebook post. I see something funny, nice, impressive, clever etc and I hit Like. I liked a weight loss success pic of a male friend today. I don’t fancy him and he doesn’t fancy me.

She probably didn’t even notice the date on the videos; she’ll have seen the latest one and the others would have just autoplayed. As he posts infrequently it’s not surprising that she saw old videos.

Who is allowed to like your husband’s gym videos? What’s he posting them for, if not for people to like and comment? I don’t think anyone’s the wrong here.