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Littleolivetreexx · 16/02/2025 14:23

Bit of a weird one, wouldn’t be able to discuss this with family or friends because they’d pass judgement

Husband stayed out around Christmas after argument. It wasn’t any major but got heated and he left. I did look through his phone after previous things going on in my last pregnancy which made me not completely trust him. Obviously I shouldn’t be snooping but I did.

He had messages on his phone from POF confirming his profile on these dates while he was away from he

he claims he set up on female profile to see what other men are doing his age, honestly wasn’t expecting him to say that and can’t quite get my head around why. He said he was bored etc.

Pretty sure he’s straight, like I’ve never had any doubts. He did say he would show me the profile but I didn’t push it and he hasn’t.

it could be gaslighting but I’m honestly not sure what to think. Has anyone had any previous experience like this or wisdom.

thank you xx

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Walkacrossthesand · 16/02/2025 14:30

Back in the days when I was dabbling in OLD, I once ran a 'dummy search' to see what the 'competition' was like - I was a female in my 50s, and I searched as a man of the same age. (As an aside - I didn't search as a man 20 years older than me, which would actually have been the ones looking at a 55 year old 🙄)
None of that makes any sense for a partnered man though...

Littleolivetreexx · 16/02/2025 14:33

Maybe you’re right. I am slightly younger than him, I don’t want to judge. We all do silly things. I was just shocked and thought the worst

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Bittenonce · 16/02/2025 20:55

Shame you didn’t check his profile while you had his phone. You didn’t trust him before - and now, well f* knows what’s going on. I’d have major league trust problems by now, if you’re not pushing it, are you just choosing to block it? It won’t go away

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 16/02/2025 22:45

He was Checking out the competition?

Why does he care what other men are up to on Pof?

He's a wrong ' un

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