Hello
i am having a serious dilemma with my mother in law past 16 months. When she eats with her fingers she licks them afterwards and use those same fingers to feed my daughter. She has severe gum disease and majority of her teeth have cavities. You could literally see visible black marks on her teeth.
On the other hand, her near sight is very weak and she also had her cataract surgery done and was told by doctors to wear her near sight glasses, but she does not listen. Everytime I go in kitchen there are marks on counter from her cooking as well the drawers are super oily to the fact its hard to even touch them. She doesn’t even clean dishes properly despite the fact that I am always seeing her standing at the sink and washing dishes all the time.
I have separated my dishes and made some space for myself in the kitchen, but how do I tell her to stop using same fingers to feed my daughter and that she needs to wear her glasses. She is stressing me out and I am super anxious from inside as to how I can explain to her that she needs to stop.
I don’t know what to do as I am getting super tired. I do home groceries, clean home, laundry, working part-time, take care of my baby, etc. I don’t need anymore stress in my life.