i need prespective on this dating situation

[aarati]

hello, i am in a talking stage with a guy but in between past 2 3 month we only catch up like once a month over a text . i kind of let things go since i am doing like playing game. he was busy with his uni and all but i could seee him online and reaching out to me so i stoped giving him any energy .recently he reached out to me we should catch up for christmas and suddenly told me to let get drunk but i said no cause it felt like so casual stuff. i think i need clousure to this situation and talk with him about i need consistence effort and commiment so should i ask him out for christamas and close this thing or let things be ?

There's no dating situation here...

Block and move on.

If it’s started like this and continued as such for THREE MONTHS, you’re setting yourself up for punishment. Cut your losses and run fast.

Raise your bar of what you expect, you won’t get it unless you insist on it. If you’re willing to accept crumbs, that’s what you’ll get.

You want different things

you do have power here to shut things down

so block abs move on

He's lining you up for a drunken one night stand. If that's your thing, please carry on. There's nothing else for you here.

First response nails it.

A monthly text is nothing to do with dating