How can I tell if it’s me or the relationship?

[Whyse]

I can’t see the wood for the trees, and I’m wondering if I am the problem or if it’s the relationship. And if it’s me (and I suspect it is me actually) perhaps I should let DP go and be free from me anyway?

We can't tell from your post, can you describe what is making you question your relationship?

It's usually never one or the other in my experience. Perhaps a mix?

Actually, it’s really weird, but just putting this in to words and reaching out to someone has helped so much.

I think there is a process between DP and me that can be very unhelpful as PP suggest. However I think there’s some good evidence that I have a borderline personality adaptation that approaches disordered at times.

Thank you anonymous strangers

Don’t just assume it is you due to borderline difficulties - listen to your gut