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Is she cheating?

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Bucke316 · 21/10/2024 22:04

LONG POST!

Hi everybody,

I am a Man looking for some advice.

Been with my partner nearly 8 years now.

Things have been very up and down in our relationship, and she has been unfaithful in the past.

Our sex life was always great in the past, but the last year or so- has been non existent.

In her defence, she has had many health issues including chronic back pain(which she had to have surgery for), but something doesn’t seem right.

For well over a year now, she keeps having these problems, in and around her private area.

First the doctors diagnosed her with a “Perianal abscess” which has been drained on countless times, and now she keeps getting these “Bartholin's cysts”.

Just always seems to have an issue in the area.

She has had swabs taken, which have came back negative- but I’m not sure if she has been tested for an STI.

With her past history of being unfaithful, I really can’t help but think, she is up to something again.

With that said, her mobility is not great- so I struggle to see how she could be doing anything.

The sex has totally dried up, and she only seems to want to be intimate- when she is fertile.

What do you guys think?

Be totally and brutally honest.

OP posts:
Weejo39 · 21/10/2024 22:12

I think you're jumping to conclusions re STIs and infidelity tbh, everything you describe; poor mobility, spinal surgery, perianal abcess and bartholin cysts are all good reasons for her lack of willingness, and even ability to contemplate intimacy. They are also not caused by sexually transmitted diseases.

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