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Questioning my sexuality

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user20372727272745 · 12/09/2024 21:57

I'm a mid 30's female, recently I have been questioning my sexuality, a recent thread on here had really made me think. I am rarely initially attracted to a man on looks alone however I often look at women and think they are good looking. I experimented a little in my younger days not a lot though and never had a relationship with a woman. I have had a few long term relationships with men, I've also been hurt a lot by men but do enjoy things sexually with men. I am not sure what I'm asking here I guess for advice of how others knew they were bi/lesbian.

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silverlentils · 12/09/2024 22:05

These are some of the things that helped me figure it out
...no need to answer but just ask yourself.

If you imagine a male body and a female body, what is your initial response to each?

Do you want to touch women in a sexual way or do you just notice them as aesthetically attractive? What about men?

Do you enjoy sexual activity with men because sex and closeness feels good, or are you actually attracted to and turned on by their bodies?

When you are alone and have erotic thoughts or dreams, are they of men or women?

user20372727272745 · 12/09/2024 22:24

If you imagine a male body and a female body, what is your initial response to each?

I am attracted to both, women more so in general, I have probably thought about a handful of men were actually good looking from the offset, the attraction tends to grow on me more or certain aspects of them I like for example big hands, shoulders etc. With women I can look at a women and think she is hot.

Do you want to touch women in a sexual way or do you just notice them as aesthetically attractive? What about men?

I guess a bit of both, it's hard to imagine touching a woman as it's something I haven't done before, I could see myself kissing a woman and exploring her body. At the same time I also desire men.

Do you enjoy sexual activity with men because sex and closeness feels good, or are you actually attracted to and turned on by their bodies?

I am very turned on by a man's body, the idea of touching him, making him cum. A women it's harder to imagine but I think perhaps because I haven't done that before so can't think what it would be like as such but I have thought about touching women before:

When you are alone and have erotic thoughts or dreams, are they of men or women?

More so men but also women at times or a mix.

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DuskandDawn · 12/09/2024 22:27

Hello me ten years ago. Finally admitting I may well be gay. Or bisexual. Or just fall in love with who I fall in love with. Not sure, not sure if I care tbh. Just opening myself up to possibilities.

Cheesandcrackers · 12/09/2024 22:39

You may be bi sexual. Nothing wrong with this as you double the chance of meeting someone. It's like a superpower!

silverlentils · 12/09/2024 22:53

Sounds like you are bisexual, or maybe bicurious. Doesn't sound like you are gay as you are attracted to men

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