After a long thinking and hesitation I am posting this publicly.
I had my breakup in 2021 with my boyfriend from college due to family pressure.
I was under immense depression since my 7 years old relationship had ended. Eventually I met someone from my job who was married and had 2 children but his marriage wasnt working out. I was so naive that when i started having relationship with him I didnt think of the word AFFAIR but i was in love.
Before i committed my self to the relationship, i made it very clear that i can be in this only if this goes into marriage. i dont want a time-pass relationship and he was also ready for that.
When he was progressing and taking steps for divorce, we found that his mother has cancer and she is in her last days of her life. Within another 3-4 days, we found that his wife has a chronic heart failure and she too was living in her last days of life. Fact is no one else know about this except me, him and the doctor. Doctors have told that even a slight amount of excess enthu / sadness can lead them straight to the death bed.
My parents are forcing me to marry someone (they dont know about our relationship). Now we are not sure of doing what.
Literally - should we open up about things to all and open the pandora / wait for them to go die ( i may look like a sadist). But with my parents pushing for my marriage soon there is no time left.
Our relationship is fine, we take care of each other and each other's family without them knowing it. All expenses are shared, everything is mutual. We still plan to move our relationship to marriage but we dont know how.