One night stand/s anyone?

[Rhythmisadance]

I am 35 F, married with kids and have been in a long term relationship for close to 15 years.. I have only ever had sex with my husband.. I am really wanting attention from other men - sad I know.. but I feel sexual lately or like I need more/something different.. I love my DH he is great, we’ve had our differences and he cheated in the past which we worked through..

now I really want to have a few new sexual experiences. I want to keep my family and DH.. I don’t want to throw it all away.. have my cake and eat it.. ://///

any advice? I don’t feel ready to communicate this to DH as I’m sure sure how it will go down..

to be honest, not even sure I’d meet anyone without being proactive about it as I don’t work.. I’m a housewife..

I suspect your marriage never actually healed from the cheating.

Have you done everything on Ann Summers website with your husband? I think you would be better making special kinky time for each other, with the kids away or on a weekend away, without involving anyone else. If you talk to him about your desire for a one night stand I think you risk losing all trust in the relationship- you’d have to do it very carefully

You partnered up pretty young so you may at some level feel you have missed out on variety. As @Theolittle suggests: the connection and familiarity you have with your long-term partner also provides a safe space to try new and different things if you want to.

Very few people here are going to recommend ONSs for you because that would involve being unfaithful to your DH.

Lol at ppl saying you need to leave your husband. You might do, but it’s not a given. Have a look into ethical non monogamy, there are lots of resources out there about it. You’ll need to have a conversation with him, probably several, and really communicate, you may then be able to agree an arrangement that works well for your unit to remain in tact while you expand your erotic lives. To be clear, this is not about cheating; it’s the opposite. There are a LOT of people practising enm in various ways out there.

I’ll chat with him to spice it up! Maybe a sex club or something of the like might be good to try!