Too exhausted for sex

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been with husband for 10 years, have 2 small children, both work full time. My poor husband is up for sex once a week but I’m just too tired and want bed, I could go weeks without it. I feel like I’m letting him down, he doesn’t pressurise me but I don’t know what I can do. My work and kid situation will be this way for some time and i just don’t have the energy to have sex, any thoughts? Thanks

I think exhaustion is about mental stimulation as well as lack of sleep. If DC are not super tiny, can you start going out more, to do hobbies or exercise? Feeling like a person in your own right rather than a dishrag devoted to toddler needs is quite important.

Are you doing equal amounts of getting up in the night, housework and cleaning etc? You need to be less tired but maybe he also needs to be more tired.

Is the sex actually good?

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Your own needs come first - if you have nothing left to give to anyone else then it’s just tough. If your husband wants sex then he needs to step up and do more so you’re less exhausted.

We have a one and a three year old. My husband is absolutely brilliant and does just as much as me but he just seems to sleep better and have more energy than me! I enjoy sex when we do it but I just can’t muster up the energy in the first place.

bump, is anyone in a similar boat?