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Who sent the picture

63 replies

Anotherperspective24 · 24/07/2024 03:42

So me and my long time BF haven’t been on the best terms. It’s his world, his feelings and if you don’t like it, then hit the road.
so I’ve been living on my own (share 50% custody with my ex husband with out 10 yr old). When I don’t have my son or when I’m not out with my GF’s he & I do stuff together from time to time.

Our favorite place is his beach house or lake house. Well this past weekend we had a very nice dinner then decided to go on a sunset boat ride. His best friend (whom I adore, would do anything for anyone in need and he’d be MY FIRST call if I ever needed help or was in trouble) and his arrogant - a$$hole of a friend - who brought some girl he just met off a dating site. Mind you, he and my friend are having troubles and she has moved out.

well I honestly didn’t even want her to know he came with us and certainly didn’t want her to know that he brought another girl. My BF Is very attractive, has anything in the world he wants and if he doesn’t have it and wants it … he gets it. He has mention his friends ex several times here lately that I find to be odd but we did spend lots of time with them. Since she had moved out, I have heard nothing from her and have since been blocked on all her social media platforms. FINE - I Know there was cheating on both of their parts and thought maybe she’s embarrassed.

well…. SOMEONE sent her a picture of the girl her ex was with ON THE BOAT… ON THE BOAT! Of course his friend thinks it was me but in my mind … IT HAD TO BE MY BF!!! It could’ve have only be me or him AND I KNOW I DIDNT!

I’m so mad, upset and down right angry that I’m accused of this and I KNOW IT WAS ME! He has to be HIM!!! How do I handle this conflict. Is my thought process right or am I overthinking this???

OP posts:
Shan5474 · 27/07/2024 22:10

Either the nice friend doesn’t like the arrogant friend and thinks his ex has been wronged so sent the photo, or your bf is a bit of a dick and wants to shit stir. You’re the only one who knows them so only you know which is more likely

Choochoo21 · 27/07/2024 22:13

Ok let’s read between the lines here…...

You were all in the park drinking lambrini and your best friends boyfriend (who is best friends with your boyfriend) brought a girl along.

Someone sent your friend a photo of her boyfriend and this other girl and people are blaming you for it.

Obviously it is very easy to find out who sent the photo… because your number comes up when they receive it.

You are also all under 17 - but posters would have worked that out already.

Ethylred · 27/07/2024 22:19

I insist on a diagram.

Elly46 · 27/07/2024 22:22

Read it twice and it’s no more transparent the second time. Just ask the person who sent them the picture.

Tartfullodger · 27/07/2024 22:27

Was it Colonel Mustard with the candle stick holder?

GrazingSheep · 27/07/2024 22:29

I feel sorry for your 10 year old,

TheWoodlanders · 27/07/2024 22:31

This reminds me of when I used to talk a lot with anyone who would listen about my boyfriend who had a car and a flat! there were endless dilemmas to discuss because he was as immature as me. I think I just enjoy the drama of being able to mention his car and his flat. I was 17.

I seems to me OP that you don’t really like your BF or trust your friendship group. But he has a beach house so he’s somehow automatically worth the complications and annoyance?

Nobody on here is impressed by a beach house. What you should be aspiring to is a boyfriend and social circle who you like and trust. Silly stuff about photos? That’s a sign you hang out with the wrong people.

Frith2013 · 27/07/2024 22:46

I cannot understand the opening post despite rereading it.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 27/07/2024 22:53

Jesus Christ, no fucking idea. Please don’t explain it though.

Willwetalk · 27/07/2024 22:55

sparkles79 · 24/07/2024 06:22

I've read this three times and I'm still stumped!

Not just me then.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/07/2024 22:56

I think I've seen this film. It's the maverick DEA investigator who lost his job and has been watching all of you since he lost his job and his best friend/partner on his last day of work before retirement due to the actions of your boyfriend, who is an international Cocaine Overlord, sending pictures so you all get confused and shouty and posting on a UK website aimed at women rather than taking one another out with an AK-47 and a pink pineapple.

billyt · 27/07/2024 23:38

Arrogant friend?

Your BF doesn't sound much better.

Oh it's painful when schools are out.

Wisterialily · 27/07/2024 23:43

Choochoo21 · 27/07/2024 22:13

Ok let’s read between the lines here…...

You were all in the park drinking lambrini and your best friends boyfriend (who is best friends with your boyfriend) brought a girl along.

Someone sent your friend a photo of her boyfriend and this other girl and people are blaming you for it.

Obviously it is very easy to find out who sent the photo… because your number comes up when they receive it.

You are also all under 17 - but posters would have worked that out already.

😂 😂 😂

Wisterialily · 27/07/2024 23:44

Wish I had access to a lake house, it would be my fav hang out too

Neveranynamesleft · 27/07/2024 23:50

Is this an episode of Inside Number 9 ??

TheLastTimeEver · 27/07/2024 23:54

GrazingSheep · 27/07/2024 22:29

I feel sorry for your 10 year old,

Especially given that the OP sounds like she’s 13

FrancisSeaton · 28/07/2024 00:03

Christ almighty this all sounds exhausting . If my husband leaves me I'm just going to die single as fk this shit

HauntedbyMagpies · 28/07/2024 01:44

😵‍💫

Mugaloaf · 28/07/2024 05:42

Did your ex H throw wine at the wall?

Busynana2024 · 28/07/2024 05:51

Sounds like listening to my daughters when they were teenagers, I couldnt figure out what they were talking about or what the actual problem was!

Soditsally · 28/07/2024 06:00

GrazingSheep · 27/07/2024 22:29

I feel sorry for your 10 year old,

Oh my days
Feels like it was written by a 10 year old

RainbowZebraWarrior · 28/07/2024 06:11

What's with the favourite food poll at the end of the post?

<misses point, if there is one>

RawBloomers · 28/07/2024 06:18

You’re dating an asshole and you know it. All the grief you get is natural consequences of that fact.

Surround yourself with better people and this sort of thing won’t happen.

Alfonsoo · 28/07/2024 06:21

I don’t understand

someone sent someone a photo of someone on a boat

Zonder · 28/07/2024 06:41

heavenisaplaceonearth · 24/07/2024 06:38

Can you not just ask who sent it? Why does it matter?

This. Although since the OP never came back I wonder if she remembered she sent it 😆