I've been married fir 19 years and have six kids. My husband is a police officer who works long shifts, very unpredictable. Christmas day 2022 I was looking in his pocket and found a Christmas bauble which a colleague had given him with a picture of him and her on. He swears this picture was cropped from a group picture.
Obviously we argued and relationships were strained, but in the end, he convinced me to give him a chance, that she was just a colleague. I agreed on the basis he had no more contact with her and didn't work with her.
Easter 2024 my daughter told me he had been texting her regularly ending messages with x. He admitted it and said he didn't know why. He said he would work to prove we could trust him. He tried for 4 weeks and looked like he would have some kind of breakdown. The girls didn't relent.
He won't let me see his phone and is always on it
He has made no effort to save his relationship. I can't keep doing this.